Hello, i'm a new member and decided to post for advice on what looks like a pretty active site before doing anything "rash."
I recently adopted a 3 year old long haired dilute tortoiseshell with hints of maine coon in her appearance. It's been six days since I brought Reina home. I'm concerned she really doesn't like me and may never like me.
Personality-wise she's a cross of super-timid and passive aggressive. Tonight she "hit" and tried to bite me - I've never had a cat "hit" me before. So that was a new one. She quite literally whacked me with a paw, no claws.
I'm worried about her coat. She has really fine hair and i'm worried it's going to get mats. I've always owned short haired cats in the past. At first she was happy with the brush, but after like 3 minutes she becomes upset. This is the point where she batted at me and then seemingly after calming down, decided it was time to try biting me and/or the brush.
When I'm not forcibly trying to groom her, she spends most of the time hiding. She has become more social, and even has her own room to "adjust" but any noise sends her in a frenzy to find the smallest spot she can fit herself into. She also does this very sad helpless looking thing where she attempts to flatten herself to the floor and then stares up with big eyes if she doesn't see an escape route.
She also seems to be terrified of me in particular
She has wandered out early morning, mewed and pawed at some other family members who were reading the paper.. but if i go near her she's "flat cat" and then has to be dislodged from the carpet and then just goes limp in my arms and stares at me helplessly.
I had been told by her foster-person that she was being given soft food as a treat. I tried being hospitable and she seemed to quite enjoy the meal. About 15 mins later, after one of the few times she's ever snuggled up to me, she suddenly freaked out, ran to the litter box, decided that wouldn't work, hopped out, and proceeded to puke more then I've ever seen a cat puke before.
No more soft food, no more problems since then.
I'm afraid she now associates me with stomach upset though..
She wont play with any toys, has no interest in string, has entirely shunned the scratching thingy I got her, and refuses to go near any sort of bedding I try to offer her. She'd rather sit on a hard shelf or the floor.
Oh, and if you give her a catnip toy she'll "love" and rub on it but should you go near her once she's in catnip-mood she'll hiss at you.
I've always had cats that started out as kittens and so they grew into their personalities. Right now I really feel like a maid for a critter who despises me.
Other personality quirks - she mewed the first night to not be left alone in the room. So i went in to quiet her down and made myself a human-bed on the floor and she proceeded to then remain 3ft away from me at all times, but if i left the room she mewed.
There's also a good bit of lip-licking for no apparent reason.
No hairballs yet, and she's pretty meticulous when it comes to the litterbox.. though the weird tufted fur thing between her toes seems to track litter everywhere.
So.. advice? Think she'll warm up to me? It's not all bad and i'm certainly venting to just get it all out there - but the thought of this all being a horrible mistake has crossed my mind in the past few days.
I recently adopted a 3 year old long haired dilute tortoiseshell with hints of maine coon in her appearance. It's been six days since I brought Reina home. I'm concerned she really doesn't like me and may never like me.
Personality-wise she's a cross of super-timid and passive aggressive. Tonight she "hit" and tried to bite me - I've never had a cat "hit" me before. So that was a new one. She quite literally whacked me with a paw, no claws.
I'm worried about her coat. She has really fine hair and i'm worried it's going to get mats. I've always owned short haired cats in the past. At first she was happy with the brush, but after like 3 minutes she becomes upset. This is the point where she batted at me and then seemingly after calming down, decided it was time to try biting me and/or the brush.
When I'm not forcibly trying to groom her, she spends most of the time hiding. She has become more social, and even has her own room to "adjust" but any noise sends her in a frenzy to find the smallest spot she can fit herself into. She also does this very sad helpless looking thing where she attempts to flatten herself to the floor and then stares up with big eyes if she doesn't see an escape route.
She also seems to be terrified of me in particular
I had been told by her foster-person that she was being given soft food as a treat. I tried being hospitable and she seemed to quite enjoy the meal. About 15 mins later, after one of the few times she's ever snuggled up to me, she suddenly freaked out, ran to the litter box, decided that wouldn't work, hopped out, and proceeded to puke more then I've ever seen a cat puke before.
No more soft food, no more problems since then.
I'm afraid she now associates me with stomach upset though..
She wont play with any toys, has no interest in string, has entirely shunned the scratching thingy I got her, and refuses to go near any sort of bedding I try to offer her. She'd rather sit on a hard shelf or the floor.
Oh, and if you give her a catnip toy she'll "love" and rub on it but should you go near her once she's in catnip-mood she'll hiss at you.
I've always had cats that started out as kittens and so they grew into their personalities. Right now I really feel like a maid for a critter who despises me.
Other personality quirks - she mewed the first night to not be left alone in the room. So i went in to quiet her down and made myself a human-bed on the floor and she proceeded to then remain 3ft away from me at all times, but if i left the room she mewed.
There's also a good bit of lip-licking for no apparent reason.
No hairballs yet, and she's pretty meticulous when it comes to the litterbox.. though the weird tufted fur thing between her toes seems to track litter everywhere.
So.. advice? Think she'll warm up to me? It's not all bad and i'm certainly venting to just get it all out there - but the thought of this all being a horrible mistake has crossed my mind in the past few days.