Sending you hugs and vibes, for strength, and quiet...so you can hear your heart & your soul, and the answer that is probably already there waiting to surface.
That's my biggest fear... well that and ending up alone. I'm hoping to work things out, I think I want to, but he seems to give up. Saying that I've been unhappy for so long and that we've already tried. Which we haven't.Originally Posted by white cat lover
I just wanted to add my {{{clarity vibes}}}. I hope you can figure this out. Just try not to rush things, OK? I know a couple who divorced only to realize they were perfect for each other & remarried.
I wish it were that easy. Part of me thinks that I have been unhappy for so long. Part of me wants to try to work this out. Part of me worries that I want to try work this out only because I feel guilty for making him feel bad (tho now he's making me feel bad so that part is ending). The rest of me worries about what every one will think, the cost of the wedding, our wedding pictures, having to divide things in our house, who does Jordan belong to, how will I afford to buy a car when I owe so much money...Originally Posted by maddensmom
Aw, sweetie!Tons of prayers and vibes your way. Listen to your heart sweetie, not your head and things will be a whole lot clearer. The heart knows what the brain dosen't want to acknowledge. You are both in my thoughts and prayers. Dh and I went through a spot like this when we had been married about six months as well. If you need to talk, just drop me a pm ok?
Even if it does end, just cherish the moments youve had together. Money is just a number, memories are precious.Originally Posted by pinkdaisy226
That's my biggest fear... well that and ending up alone. I'm hoping to work things out, I think I want to, but he seems to give up. Saying that I've been unhappy for so long and that we've already tried. Which we haven't.
I wish it were that easy. Part of me thinks that I have been unhappy for so long. Part of me wants to try to work this out. Part of me worries that I want to try work this out only because I feel guilty for making him feel bad (tho now he's making me feel bad so that part is ending). The rest of me worries about what every one will think, the cost of the wedding, our wedding pictures, having to divide things in our house, who does Jordan belong to, how will I afford to buy a car when I owe so much money...
Please don't worry about that kind of stuff right now...it will only make things more stressful. I'm not sure what your situation is exactly, but I've been married 7 months so maybe I can relate a little. Have you talked about trying counseling together?Originally Posted by pinkdaisy226
The rest of me worries about what every one will think, the cost of the wedding, our wedding pictures, having to divide things in our house, who does Jordan belong to, how will I afford to buy a car when I owe so much money...
I went through this. And I am sending "find your heart" vibes. In order to make the "right" decision, you have to forget the money, forget what others will think, forget about what stuff is whose, and forget about how difficult it is to admit you're "wrong" if you hear your heart telling you you don't want to stay in the marriage. I know it's next to impossible, but the only decision that matters is the one your heart makes, not the one your brain makes.Originally Posted by pinkdaisy226
That's my biggest fear... well that and ending up alone. I'm hoping to work things out, I think I want to, but he seems to give up. Saying that I've been unhappy for so long and that we've already tried. Which we haven't.
I wish it were that easy. Part of me thinks that I have been unhappy for so long. Part of me wants to try to work this out. Part of me worries that I want to try work this out only because I feel guilty for making him feel bad (tho now he's making me feel bad so that part is ending). The rest of me worries about what every one will think, the cost of the wedding, our wedding pictures, having to divide things in our house, who does Jordan belong to, how will I afford to buy a car when I owe so much money...
The situation is that we realized we're completely different people. I think we became different people... we met when we were still figuring ourselves out and now we have, for the most part, become different. We've both changed careers, changed our lifestyles...Originally Posted by Jenny82
Please don't worry about that kind of stuff right now...it will only make things more stressful. I'm not sure what your situation is exactly, but I've been married 7 months so maybe I can relate a little. Have you talked about trying counseling together?
You're right, I do need to stop thinking about that stuff.Originally Posted by LDG
I went through this. And I am sending "find your heart" vibes. In order to make the "right" decision, you have to forget the money, forget what others will think, forget about what stuff is whose, and forget about how difficult it is to admit you're "wrong" if you hear your heart telling you you don't want to stay in the marriage. I know it's next to impossible, but the only decision that matters is the one your heart makes, not the one your brain makes.
And if you get to that place where you can hear your heart and it tells you you're in love, it doesn't matter how different you are. Then you go fight for your hubby, whether he's given up or not.
Consider making an appointment with a counselor - for you, if not a marriage counselor. They'll help you focus on what you feel, not what you think.
Laurie