I agree with Amy - although it would be nice to have unbridled passion and lust but then we would never get out of bed and actually get to know each other as people.Originally Posted by ugaimes
I am just sickened by how he is acting now. A great relationship isn't just about unbridled passion and lust. That stuff is great, but it has it's high points and it's low points. A great relationship is about communication, trust, loving the other no matter what, and being each other's best friend. Katherine, in your maturity, YOU know that that is what makes a great relationship, but Brendan seems to prescribe to the movie version of what good love is. I have a feeling he is in for a very rude awakening...
to you. Whether you know it or not, you are getting stronger with each day that passes and (not to sound like a bad infomercial or something, but...) you will come out of all of this the winner. You are going to gain strength, clarity, and a better sense of who YOU are; that I will personally guarantee.
I have already said, you are a beautiful woman Katherine - and by reading your posts, you are getting stronger and and you WILL come out on top - and like Amy said, you will gain all that strength, clarity and a better sense of yourself. You are still so young and you have a long future ahead of you - use that time right now for yourself, not for him, not for anyone else - but for yourself. I was single for 5 years before I met and married Jake and I do not regret that time, I am glad that i was single for so long - sure I did have fun with men, but nothing serious - thats all it was, fun. I became stronger as a person, I knew myself better, what I wanted, even what I wanted in a man and I got him - I am glad I waited instead of looking for him. It just happened and I am glad it did.
Everything happens for a reason Katherine - we may not see it at the time but later on in life, we will see it and it will become crystal clear. Idon't mind listening to you talk about this, my heart goes out to you and I try and think of something intelligent to say - most of the time I never have something intelligent to say which is why I hardly reply to posts - but I hope mine does sound okay here!