Hello everyone. I need to vent. I am feeling both sad and happy at the same time. About five months ago, my fiancé and I found out that we are expecting a child. I can’t wait. It’s the most exciting feeling I have felt. I found the woman of my dreams. However, my fiancé is allergic to cats, and I have been living with my cat, Michael, for five years. The plan is for me to take Michael back once we have a house in one to two years, and he will have his own living space in the basement. Don’t worry, it will be big. Bigger than my old apartment. It will be my man cave so il be spending time there. I’m sure after a year of living there I will sneak him upstairs and eventually ease my way in with him lol. During the pregnancy, my fiancé does not feel comfortable with Michael being around, and she is worried that the baby will be allergic too at the start. Currently, Michael has been living with my parents, who are very loving towards him.
Recently, I have been struggling a lot with not living with Michael for the past three months. I have been crying every night for a week, but I haven't talked about it with anyone out of fear that they will not understand my love for my cat. People usually say “it’s just a cat!” “Worry about your child”. “Make them a priority!” Even though it has nothing to do with each-other. There isn’t anything anyone can do anyway. I feel lucky I can even bring him to love with me when we get a house. When I got Michael, I fell in love with him and promised that I would always bring him along with me in life and keep him by my side. He is five years old now, and I feel guilty and depressed about leaving him with my parents for such a long time. I will be losing a significant amount of time with him, and it hurts me deeply.
To add to my stress, my parents have to go to Italy for one and a half months starting in July, leaving Michael alone in the house. With the pressure of the baby, starting a new job in July, and worrying about Michael being alone, I am feeling anxious and overwhelmed. However, I have a plan in place to make sure Michael is taken care of:
I hope this is enough. It would break my heart to give him to another family over 1 month and half. I will never be the same again. He is my best friend. Someone I can talk to who wouldn’t judge me.
Recently, I have been struggling a lot with not living with Michael for the past three months. I have been crying every night for a week, but I haven't talked about it with anyone out of fear that they will not understand my love for my cat. People usually say “it’s just a cat!” “Worry about your child”. “Make them a priority!” Even though it has nothing to do with each-other. There isn’t anything anyone can do anyway. I feel lucky I can even bring him to love with me when we get a house. When I got Michael, I fell in love with him and promised that I would always bring him along with me in life and keep him by my side. He is five years old now, and I feel guilty and depressed about leaving him with my parents for such a long time. I will be losing a significant amount of time with him, and it hurts me deeply.
To add to my stress, my parents have to go to Italy for one and a half months starting in July, leaving Michael alone in the house. With the pressure of the baby, starting a new job in July, and worrying about Michael being alone, I am feeling anxious and overwhelmed. However, I have a plan in place to make sure Michael is taken care of:
I hope this is enough. It would break my heart to give him to another family over 1 month and half. I will never be the same again. He is my best friend. Someone I can talk to who wouldn’t judge me.
- I will visit Michael every morning and night to feed him, and spend an hour with him during each visit.
- My niece, who Michael is comfortable with, will visit him every day from 5 PM to 11 PM to spend time with him.
- My niece will sleep over for two nights out of the week to keep Michael company. Wish it was more but it’s all I could get. Had to basically bribe her for that lol. I understand though. She will be there everyday for a long time and she is sacrificing her summer for me and michael.
- I will install cameras in every room of the house to keep an eye on Michael.
- I have bought an Amazon Echo, which has a special feature that allows me to video call Michael and see and hear him while I am away. He will also be able to see me!!
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