I am separating from my husband. Where I'm located, rents are ridiculously high. Yesterday I put a deposit down on a 400 square ft studio that has a longer commute to my job than where I am now. It's the only thing I can afford right now.
My husband and I adopted 2 cats when we first started living together, Harley and Joey, when they were 6 and 9 months old. That was about 2006, so they're around 12 years old. They were not brother and sister, but were together at the shelter and have been together ever since. We both share responsibility for both cats, but Harley has always been more my husband's cat and Joey has always been my snuggle buddy.
I know i am not taking Harley with me when I move. She has health problems and medication I won't be able to keep on top of now that I'm paying rent (my husband makes more $ than me). But I am torn on whether or not I should take Joey with me.
Both cats are still pretty active and playful. They both chase each other around and cause havoc and enjoy their toys. There is a cat tree here and room to wander/find solitude/hide away (they are indoor cats).
I am afraid if i take Joey to this tiny apartment he will become depressed without Harley. I am gone most of the time at work, plus I'll be out longer with the new commute. Also, I am thinking I might want to get a part time job weekends or evenings for extra income.
Joey is healthy now, but getting older, and I'm afraid I wouldn't be able to handle extra vet bills or a health crisis now.
But Joey and I have always had a special bond, and it breaks my heart to think he will mourn me or feel abandoned. My husband is OK with cat care and attention (obviously not with me, lol), but i know I am more "present" and attentive with Joey (he likes a lot of one-on-one play time with a human, whereas Harley is happy to sit in a room with you and chill).
What is best for my Joey Bear here? In know even if he pines for me he will adjust and be happy again. I am afraid I can't provide him with a happy cat life right now. But I don't know if I'm looking at things the way a cat would, either.
My husband and I adopted 2 cats when we first started living together, Harley and Joey, when they were 6 and 9 months old. That was about 2006, so they're around 12 years old. They were not brother and sister, but were together at the shelter and have been together ever since. We both share responsibility for both cats, but Harley has always been more my husband's cat and Joey has always been my snuggle buddy.
I know i am not taking Harley with me when I move. She has health problems and medication I won't be able to keep on top of now that I'm paying rent (my husband makes more $ than me). But I am torn on whether or not I should take Joey with me.
Both cats are still pretty active and playful. They both chase each other around and cause havoc and enjoy their toys. There is a cat tree here and room to wander/find solitude/hide away (they are indoor cats).
I am afraid if i take Joey to this tiny apartment he will become depressed without Harley. I am gone most of the time at work, plus I'll be out longer with the new commute. Also, I am thinking I might want to get a part time job weekends or evenings for extra income.
Joey is healthy now, but getting older, and I'm afraid I wouldn't be able to handle extra vet bills or a health crisis now.
But Joey and I have always had a special bond, and it breaks my heart to think he will mourn me or feel abandoned. My husband is OK with cat care and attention (obviously not with me, lol), but i know I am more "present" and attentive with Joey (he likes a lot of one-on-one play time with a human, whereas Harley is happy to sit in a room with you and chill).
What is best for my Joey Bear here? In know even if he pines for me he will adjust and be happy again. I am afraid I can't provide him with a happy cat life right now. But I don't know if I'm looking at things the way a cat would, either.