My mother is so mad at me right now. I've been crying for the last hour because I honestly don't know what to do and who was wrong.
I'll start off by saying that I just turned 20, I'm in my third year of college and my parents still help me with some bills. For example: cell phone-split plan, health insurance, and car insurance. I pay for my house rent, bills, school, school books, pretty much everything else I need. My mom helps me when she can but I try not to ask her for help because I know she can't afford it. My parents are border-line bankrupcy but they don't want to claim banckrupcy because of everything they will loose.
A few weeks ago my mother asked me for $800, which comes from a student loan and told me she would pay me back three days later. Three days later turned into nearly three weeks, then she called and asked for more money because more things had come up. That's when I told her I was worried she wouldn't be able to pay me back the $800 and I didn't want to give her more $. She got really upset with me hung up the phone then never showed up that day to help me move like she was going to.
I got an email from her that made me cry again because I couldn't believe she would write what she did. My mother and I had a great relationship till last week and now I don't know what to do
Here is part of the email she sent me:
Hello Steph,
Your $800.00 has been paid in full.
Okay, now for my response to your comment/feelings voiced the other day.
You talked to me like if I was white trash, I am not and please don't talk to like that ever again. You hurt my feelings, you made me cry and very upset with you and your rudeness. How dare you to act like we do nothing for you in the financial way. Here would be a few samples that I can think of at this time. No, I am not the type that keeps track of everything we give you. No, I do not expect for you to repay it. No, I don't expect to change the bills that we pay for you to change, at this time. But, I do feel you need reminded that I help you out a lot on the financial area and feel that you may not realize how much we do help.
(She made a list of everything she has helped me with)
I didn't ever mean to sound like I was being rude or treating her like "white trash." I don't think I came off that way, but she feels I did. I just told her that I was worried I wouldn't get the money back and that student loan is all I have for support for the next 6 months.
Please give me some advice!!!
I'll start off by saying that I just turned 20, I'm in my third year of college and my parents still help me with some bills. For example: cell phone-split plan, health insurance, and car insurance. I pay for my house rent, bills, school, school books, pretty much everything else I need. My mom helps me when she can but I try not to ask her for help because I know she can't afford it. My parents are border-line bankrupcy but they don't want to claim banckrupcy because of everything they will loose.
A few weeks ago my mother asked me for $800, which comes from a student loan and told me she would pay me back three days later. Three days later turned into nearly three weeks, then she called and asked for more money because more things had come up. That's when I told her I was worried she wouldn't be able to pay me back the $800 and I didn't want to give her more $. She got really upset with me hung up the phone then never showed up that day to help me move like she was going to.
I got an email from her that made me cry again because I couldn't believe she would write what she did. My mother and I had a great relationship till last week and now I don't know what to do
Here is part of the email she sent me:
Hello Steph,
Your $800.00 has been paid in full.
Okay, now for my response to your comment/feelings voiced the other day.
You talked to me like if I was white trash, I am not and please don't talk to like that ever again. You hurt my feelings, you made me cry and very upset with you and your rudeness. How dare you to act like we do nothing for you in the financial way. Here would be a few samples that I can think of at this time. No, I am not the type that keeps track of everything we give you. No, I do not expect for you to repay it. No, I don't expect to change the bills that we pay for you to change, at this time. But, I do feel you need reminded that I help you out a lot on the financial area and feel that you may not realize how much we do help.
(She made a list of everything she has helped me with)
I didn't ever mean to sound like I was being rude or treating her like "white trash." I don't think I came off that way, but she feels I did. I just told her that I was worried I wouldn't get the money back and that student loan is all I have for support for the next 6 months.
Please give me some advice!!!