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Cairo was my 6 yr old male Abyssinian kitty. I've had him since he was 6 months old, and he was an absolute sweatheart ! He loved to be loved, and always wanted to be with me ... 'helping' me in the kitchen, or chasing the icon on the compute monitor while I was trying to work... He was a smart little guy .. I had taught him how to fetch (or more likely, he had taught me !) and catch balls in the air. He loved his tummy to be rubbed and was always ready to give head butts to anyone that was around. He even knew how to hug !!!!
On December 4, 2012, baby Cairo died. One minute he was fine .... he had eaten his breakfast and was playing .. and then next minute he was gone. Cairo never had any health problems, so I had a necropsy done, and it was determined that he died from Hypertrophic Cardiomyopathy.
I have done quite a bit of reading up on HCM, enough to know that 'there isnt usually anything that can be done, and cats can die suddenly from this', however, it doesnt make the guilt I feel any less .. and it seems to be getting worse and worse as the days go by. I've been wracking my brain trying to think back -- if maybe I had missed something .. a symptom.. anything .. that could have saved his life.
To make matters worse (and my guilt so much more unbearable) , about 8 months prior to Cairo's death, he had seen an outdoor cat in my yard, which resulted in him attacking my other 6yr old Aby, Foxy Cleopatra continually (misplaced or intercat aggression) .. each time more violently (definitely not play fighting) .. so I had to separate them.
I consulted a cat behaviourist ("The Cat Whisperer') and spent the next 6 months 'reintroducing' them.
After a few months, the reintroduction would work and my 2 Aby babies would be friends again. And then one little noise would spook Cairo and he would go after FoxyC again and we would be back to square one.
They went through this introduction process at least 4 times .. and each time it would work, but then something would set off Cairo and there would be fighting again. It was devastating to watch .. and as I kept putting them through this 'process', Cairo would get more and more unhappy and agitated .. as Abys hate to be alone .. and having to alternate keeping them separate, it was my only option at that point.
After 7 months of this with no end in sight .. I made the devastating decision to try to find a new home for Cairo .. and I did. I found a wonderful woman who had previously owned an Aby, and she fell in love with Cairo.
She even allowed me to visit him in his new home, and when I did, I knew I had made the best decision for him. Or so I thought.
Cairo was happy and purring and running around, chasing his balls again .... no more stress, and he had the run of the house. He was back to my baby Cairo.
Then, 2 weeks later, Cairo died of HCM. And its my fault. Putting poor Cairo through all of the stress of months and months of trying to reintroduce the 2 cats ... then the stress of rehoming him, which I thought was the best decision at the time however, it is now my biggest regret. How could I abandon poor Cairo like that .. and then he dies ?!?! I am so devastated and know that I made the worst decision possible for Cairo ... he should have been home with me .... my heart is broken .. and the guilt gets worse and worse every day ....
How could I have done this to him ????
On December 4, 2012, baby Cairo died. One minute he was fine .... he had eaten his breakfast and was playing .. and then next minute he was gone. Cairo never had any health problems, so I had a necropsy done, and it was determined that he died from Hypertrophic Cardiomyopathy.
I have done quite a bit of reading up on HCM, enough to know that 'there isnt usually anything that can be done, and cats can die suddenly from this', however, it doesnt make the guilt I feel any less .. and it seems to be getting worse and worse as the days go by. I've been wracking my brain trying to think back -- if maybe I had missed something .. a symptom.. anything .. that could have saved his life.
To make matters worse (and my guilt so much more unbearable) , about 8 months prior to Cairo's death, he had seen an outdoor cat in my yard, which resulted in him attacking my other 6yr old Aby, Foxy Cleopatra continually (misplaced or intercat aggression) .. each time more violently (definitely not play fighting) .. so I had to separate them.
I consulted a cat behaviourist ("The Cat Whisperer') and spent the next 6 months 'reintroducing' them.
After a few months, the reintroduction would work and my 2 Aby babies would be friends again. And then one little noise would spook Cairo and he would go after FoxyC again and we would be back to square one.
They went through this introduction process at least 4 times .. and each time it would work, but then something would set off Cairo and there would be fighting again. It was devastating to watch .. and as I kept putting them through this 'process', Cairo would get more and more unhappy and agitated .. as Abys hate to be alone .. and having to alternate keeping them separate, it was my only option at that point.
After 7 months of this with no end in sight .. I made the devastating decision to try to find a new home for Cairo .. and I did. I found a wonderful woman who had previously owned an Aby, and she fell in love with Cairo.
She even allowed me to visit him in his new home, and when I did, I knew I had made the best decision for him. Or so I thought.
Cairo was happy and purring and running around, chasing his balls again .... no more stress, and he had the run of the house. He was back to my baby Cairo.
Then, 2 weeks later, Cairo died of HCM. And its my fault. Putting poor Cairo through all of the stress of months and months of trying to reintroduce the 2 cats ... then the stress of rehoming him, which I thought was the best decision at the time however, it is now my biggest regret. How could I abandon poor Cairo like that .. and then he dies ?!?! I am so devastated and know that I made the worst decision possible for Cairo ... he should have been home with me .... my heart is broken .. and the guilt gets worse and worse every day ....
How could I have done this to him ????