I've seen this cycle happen (I'm saying "man" here, but it can go the other way, too): man wants out of the relationship, man picks fights and gets verbally abusive, woman gets mad/upset, man justifies bad behavior because "look what a jerk she is" (when she's mad)... Most of the time, the man (or woman) does this because he has found someone else and is too much of a coward to be the one who leaves the relationship.
I'm sending you lots of hugs and you did not leave in a cowardly way.
I'm sending you lots of hugs and you did not leave in a cowardly way.