I left my husband on Saturday night.
I did it in a really cowardly way. I waited till he went out to a party then packed up my things and went to a holiday cottage with my girls. (Villy and Roxy)
We have been having problems for quite a while, since May, or maybe before. Weâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ve been married for almost 2 years (20 months), and together for 5 years.
I left because I couldnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t handle it anymore. He used to be rude to me, itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s really difficult to explain, but my best friend and my family noticed it. For example, if he said something and I didnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t hear him and he had to repeat it he would get so cross and shout at me for “not listeningâ€. He is very moody and “directâ€, heâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s rude with his family too, itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s his personality, and I just couldnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t take it any more. I (stupidly) thought things would change after we got married. Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]m so confused because I love him and kind of miss his company, but also I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t miss someone being mean to me. I began to feel tense whenever he came out with me to see my friends or family in case he was rude to me or them and embarrassed me or them.
For example, we went to a concert with my friend, in March, and mike (DH) was being moody. I was wondering which songs the band were going to play, so I looked and found the set list on the sound booth. I told him it was there, and he was all “Why would I want to know what they are going to play, I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t careâ€. And also my friend and I were handing out flyers for a gig that we were organising, and he got really annoyed, saying I was annoying people and basically making an idiot of myself. Itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s so strange, because we went away with my family for a weekend in the summer and he was like a different person? But when weâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]re home, in everyday life, he can be so moody, and heâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ll just suddenly get cross for no real reason. It makes you think “where did that come from?â€
Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ve asked my friend, who has listened to me complain for the last year, if Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]m making a mountain out of a molehill, and she says Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]m not. We lived with my sister for a while and she has just told me that she used to have to take herself out of the house because Mikeâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s behaviour toward me bothered her so much she was worried she would say something to him.
Occasionally he would be funny though. When I was ill he took really good care of me. He didnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t mind spending time going clothes shopping when we went to Florida.
The final thing that pushed me over the edge was a “friendship†that heâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s cultivated with a 19 year old single girl at work. Heâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s been chatting with her online. He says sheâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s just a friend, but he doesnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t chat with any of his other work colleagues online!!!
Weâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ve been talking on the phone, and he says that I antagonised him by not listening, and making sarcastic comments. Ok, I did. Because he annoyed me SO much.
Argh!
I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t know how I feel, at the moment I just feel like Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]m away, on a break without his or something, as we havenâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t said itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s over, or Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]m going back or anything.
We did go to relationship councilling in the summer, I booked us in and he didnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t want to come, but he did twice in the end. I think I went about 5 times in total.
Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]m worried that I didnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t make enough effort, but part of me didnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t want to as my efforts were rewarded with a man who was mean to me and put me down.
Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]m so confused.
I did it in a really cowardly way. I waited till he went out to a party then packed up my things and went to a holiday cottage with my girls. (Villy and Roxy)
We have been having problems for quite a while, since May, or maybe before. Weâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ve been married for almost 2 years (20 months), and together for 5 years.
I left because I couldnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t handle it anymore. He used to be rude to me, itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s really difficult to explain, but my best friend and my family noticed it. For example, if he said something and I didnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t hear him and he had to repeat it he would get so cross and shout at me for “not listeningâ€. He is very moody and “directâ€, heâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s rude with his family too, itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s his personality, and I just couldnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t take it any more. I (stupidly) thought things would change after we got married. Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]m so confused because I love him and kind of miss his company, but also I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t miss someone being mean to me. I began to feel tense whenever he came out with me to see my friends or family in case he was rude to me or them and embarrassed me or them.
For example, we went to a concert with my friend, in March, and mike (DH) was being moody. I was wondering which songs the band were going to play, so I looked and found the set list on the sound booth. I told him it was there, and he was all “Why would I want to know what they are going to play, I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t careâ€. And also my friend and I were handing out flyers for a gig that we were organising, and he got really annoyed, saying I was annoying people and basically making an idiot of myself. Itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s so strange, because we went away with my family for a weekend in the summer and he was like a different person? But when weâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]re home, in everyday life, he can be so moody, and heâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ll just suddenly get cross for no real reason. It makes you think “where did that come from?â€
Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ve asked my friend, who has listened to me complain for the last year, if Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]m making a mountain out of a molehill, and she says Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]m not. We lived with my sister for a while and she has just told me that she used to have to take herself out of the house because Mikeâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s behaviour toward me bothered her so much she was worried she would say something to him.
Occasionally he would be funny though. When I was ill he took really good care of me. He didnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t mind spending time going clothes shopping when we went to Florida.
The final thing that pushed me over the edge was a “friendship†that heâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s cultivated with a 19 year old single girl at work. Heâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s been chatting with her online. He says sheâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s just a friend, but he doesnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t chat with any of his other work colleagues online!!!
Weâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]ve been talking on the phone, and he says that I antagonised him by not listening, and making sarcastic comments. Ok, I did. Because he annoyed me SO much.
Argh!
I donâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t know how I feel, at the moment I just feel like Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]m away, on a break without his or something, as we havenâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t said itâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]s over, or Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]m going back or anything.
We did go to relationship councilling in the summer, I booked us in and he didnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t want to come, but he did twice in the end. I think I went about 5 times in total.
Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]m worried that I didnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t make enough effort, but part of me didnâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]t want to as my efforts were rewarded with a man who was mean to me and put me down.
Iâ€[emoji]8482[/emoji]m so confused.