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Ok, DH is a reenactor; he's away starting today, for 3 days. He always says he'll call me when he gets there, to let me know he got there ok. I do worry, as he has to travel for a few hours, usually--and recently, he left in very bad snow/ice. (I come from a family where you always do this, if traveling.)
Anymore, he "forgets". I sit here for literally hours, waiting for him to call, and worrying. To add insult to injury, he's the one that insisted I get a cell phone, and I pay the stupid bill (I seldom use my phone, BTW), which he runs up, and goes over on the minutes. Yet, a lot of the time, when I call him, he's not available, or, "Jeff & I got busy with the stuff at the reenactment, and I forgot to call you."
Tonight is the last straw. He must have arrived there no later than 3PM today. I decided to call him at 8 PM tonight, not having gotten a call. Didn't answer. Tried again a few minutes later, both times leaving messages. No call. I just tried a few minutes ago; as it went right to voicemail, I know he must have seen that he had 2 messages, and that I was trying to contact him, yet turned the phone off. I'm afraid the last message was not very nice. I controlled my temper, but said, "I've have been trying to get ahold of you; and can see that you turned your phone off despite that. Please tell me why we even bother to have cell phones? Also, I kind wonder what you're doing in that you don't want me to call you [side note: no battle today; the actual event doesn't start until tomorrow afternoon--it's just guys only tonight, and sleep]? Don't bother to call back. See you Sunday. 'Bye."
I kind of wonder if he's up to something no good there. I have NEVER in the 6 years we've been together, thought of this; but his little game with not calling, and then ignoring my calls is making me paranoid, I guess, and this has happened before. One guy used to bring loose women to the events (cheated on his wife), but they threw him out due to this. One guy brought a stripper once. Another brought his girlfriend to belly dance for the guys in the barracks.
I try hard not to be a one of theose reenacting wives who rides herd on her man--I used to be a reenactor myself. However, this is starting to bother me a bit. I only call if I need to, or, usually, because he didn't when he promised to. I want him to have fun, so I try not to bother him needlessly. However, I think that, if your spouse calls you, you should to try call back ASAP. Am I being selfish?
Anymore, he "forgets". I sit here for literally hours, waiting for him to call, and worrying. To add insult to injury, he's the one that insisted I get a cell phone, and I pay the stupid bill (I seldom use my phone, BTW), which he runs up, and goes over on the minutes. Yet, a lot of the time, when I call him, he's not available, or, "Jeff & I got busy with the stuff at the reenactment, and I forgot to call you."
Tonight is the last straw. He must have arrived there no later than 3PM today. I decided to call him at 8 PM tonight, not having gotten a call. Didn't answer. Tried again a few minutes later, both times leaving messages. No call. I just tried a few minutes ago; as it went right to voicemail, I know he must have seen that he had 2 messages, and that I was trying to contact him, yet turned the phone off. I'm afraid the last message was not very nice. I controlled my temper, but said, "I've have been trying to get ahold of you; and can see that you turned your phone off despite that. Please tell me why we even bother to have cell phones? Also, I kind wonder what you're doing in that you don't want me to call you [side note: no battle today; the actual event doesn't start until tomorrow afternoon--it's just guys only tonight, and sleep]? Don't bother to call back. See you Sunday. 'Bye."
I kind of wonder if he's up to something no good there. I have NEVER in the 6 years we've been together, thought of this; but his little game with not calling, and then ignoring my calls is making me paranoid, I guess, and this has happened before. One guy used to bring loose women to the events (cheated on his wife), but they threw him out due to this. One guy brought a stripper once. Another brought his girlfriend to belly dance for the guys in the barracks.
I try hard not to be a one of theose reenacting wives who rides herd on her man--I used to be a reenactor myself. However, this is starting to bother me a bit. I only call if I need to, or, usually, because he didn't when he promised to. I want him to have fun, so I try not to bother him needlessly. However, I think that, if your spouse calls you, you should to try call back ASAP. Am I being selfish?