Hello, I am a college student currently returning for Christmas break and I had a bunch of questions to ask before I go see the nurse right after Christmas.
So basically, In October of this year (2017), me and my housemate at college decided to adopt a kitten each: I adopted a male kitten (Uno) and he adopted a female kitten (Ocha). Uno was about 8 weeks old when I got him and Ocha was 7 weeks old when my housemate got her, and we basically got them on the same day. Within 3 days of just hanging out in the same space, both Uno and Ocha got along very well and basically are best friends. During the end of October, my house mate and I both returned to our hometown (NYC) and got them their required shots at a vet.
Fast Forward to December(December 22, 2017), We took the same car back to NYC and had both Uno and Ocha in the same carrier (as we always do when we returned during the end of October and for Thanksgiving break) and they were perfectly fine. My housemate asked me to watch both cats the first night as he had to take care of some stuff and would not be able to watch his cat, so I took both Uno and Ocha to my house, which is perfectly normal as they are in the same house back at college basically 24/7. It was not until I saw that my male cat (Uno) bite Ocha by the nape of her neck that I that something was a bit off. He continued to do this multiple times and I knew it had something to do with his sexual aggression, and so I just simply would pick him up and place him a few feet away from Ocha (female) and he kept doing this but eventually stopped. After the night (which I stayed up for the majority of the night watching them) they were back to their normal selves, play fighting and running around just like at our college home. When my housemate picked Ocha up and brought her back to his house, everything seemed fine, but this was the first time they were really separated. Anyways, he had to bring her to my house again, (December 24, 2017) and the same exact thing happened where my male cat (Uno) would try to bite her by the neck. I did the same exact thing where I would simply pick him up (without being aggressive) and move him away, and he eventually stopped doing this again.
I am going to get Uno neutered before this break, but I read that neutered cats may sometimes still be sexually aggressive. I was worried that when bringing them back to our college house after Christmas break, that this problem would persist and I would not be able to oversee and manage such a problem while busy with school. The whole point of having both cats was to ensure they wouldn't get lonely while both my housemate and I were off at school.
They are currently sleeping right next to each other, and Uno and Ocha seem to be completely back to normal, but I want to find solutions to make sure that their friendship isn't jeopardized by my male cat Uno being too sexually aggressive.
I am sorry for the long wall of text but I am hoping that someone can help me out, they are both very sweet kittens, and are right around 4-5 months now, please someone help me with a solution.
Thank you so much.
A Concerned Cat Owner!!
So basically, In October of this year (2017), me and my housemate at college decided to adopt a kitten each: I adopted a male kitten (Uno) and he adopted a female kitten (Ocha). Uno was about 8 weeks old when I got him and Ocha was 7 weeks old when my housemate got her, and we basically got them on the same day. Within 3 days of just hanging out in the same space, both Uno and Ocha got along very well and basically are best friends. During the end of October, my house mate and I both returned to our hometown (NYC) and got them their required shots at a vet.
Fast Forward to December(December 22, 2017), We took the same car back to NYC and had both Uno and Ocha in the same carrier (as we always do when we returned during the end of October and for Thanksgiving break) and they were perfectly fine. My housemate asked me to watch both cats the first night as he had to take care of some stuff and would not be able to watch his cat, so I took both Uno and Ocha to my house, which is perfectly normal as they are in the same house back at college basically 24/7. It was not until I saw that my male cat (Uno) bite Ocha by the nape of her neck that I that something was a bit off. He continued to do this multiple times and I knew it had something to do with his sexual aggression, and so I just simply would pick him up and place him a few feet away from Ocha (female) and he kept doing this but eventually stopped. After the night (which I stayed up for the majority of the night watching them) they were back to their normal selves, play fighting and running around just like at our college home. When my housemate picked Ocha up and brought her back to his house, everything seemed fine, but this was the first time they were really separated. Anyways, he had to bring her to my house again, (December 24, 2017) and the same exact thing happened where my male cat (Uno) would try to bite her by the neck. I did the same exact thing where I would simply pick him up (without being aggressive) and move him away, and he eventually stopped doing this again.
I am going to get Uno neutered before this break, but I read that neutered cats may sometimes still be sexually aggressive. I was worried that when bringing them back to our college house after Christmas break, that this problem would persist and I would not be able to oversee and manage such a problem while busy with school. The whole point of having both cats was to ensure they wouldn't get lonely while both my housemate and I were off at school.
They are currently sleeping right next to each other, and Uno and Ocha seem to be completely back to normal, but I want to find solutions to make sure that their friendship isn't jeopardized by my male cat Uno being too sexually aggressive.
I am sorry for the long wall of text but I am hoping that someone can help me out, they are both very sweet kittens, and are right around 4-5 months now, please someone help me with a solution.
Thank you so much.
A Concerned Cat Owner!!
To help them not forget each other, keep doing scent swapping (swapping blankets, toys etc between the two of them). Cardboard scratchers are fantastc for this - cats have scent glands between their toes, so every time they scratch, that object gets impregnated with their scent 
