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I have a 10 y.o. female tabby who lost her lifelong friend and companion to cancer in February. I tried to adopt two successive young males for her and it did NOT go well. After a while, they BOTH started jumping on her, biting her, rolling her, attacking her. I talked to the behaviorist at the shelter and apparently both were recent neuters and it might take MONTHS for the testosterone to leave their system...meanwhile, she was hiding upstairs and stress-licking huge bald spots on her body. So we had to return them, paid their fees for the next person and they were both happily adopted within a few days.
I just felt like she would be happy with a companion, though. She was always so distraught if we left the house for a while in a way that she never was when she had her buddy. So we waited a little while and adopted again, this time a same-age female who was smaller than her and declawed by a former owner. Super sweet girl (see pic). For a week, we kept her baby-gated in a separate part of the house. Then we started letting her out - first for a couple of hours, and finally all day (she's baby-gated at night to give our old girl, Tabitha, a break).
So, she's been out all day for...almost 2 weeks, and 1 week of being here but kept separate. Tabitha is still EXTREMELY grumpy about the situation. When she sees new cat, she growls. New cat ignores and stays away. Tabitha has always slept all day upstairs and new cat doesn't bother her. At night, she comes downstairs, and grudgingly sleeps on the opposite end of the couch, with an eye on the new cat the whole time. If they were to pass in the hallway, Tabitha would growl or even scream. We usually have one screaming event per day, although I don't think there's physical contact and new cat seems calm enough about the whole thing (now getting used to our little corgi is another matter! She's still terrified of her, even though corgi is elderly, deaf, and hasn't even noticed that we HAVE another cat). She sits at a distance and watches, or she walks away.
I am assuming that, with time, Tabitha will become used to the new cat. They aren't fighting. It's just Tabitha's aggressive growling whenever she sees new cat. This is probably normal after 3 weeks, right? Tabitha just had a really bad experience with 2 consecutive new cats hurting her, so it's natural that she is wary. Just wondered about timeline...has anyone brought a new cat in with a very grumpy alpha cat, and how long did it take for uneasy co-existence? I hate to see Tabitha unhappy but I so wanted another cat and I think that she needs the company. Thanks so much!
I just felt like she would be happy with a companion, though. She was always so distraught if we left the house for a while in a way that she never was when she had her buddy. So we waited a little while and adopted again, this time a same-age female who was smaller than her and declawed by a former owner. Super sweet girl (see pic). For a week, we kept her baby-gated in a separate part of the house. Then we started letting her out - first for a couple of hours, and finally all day (she's baby-gated at night to give our old girl, Tabitha, a break).
So, she's been out all day for...almost 2 weeks, and 1 week of being here but kept separate. Tabitha is still EXTREMELY grumpy about the situation. When she sees new cat, she growls. New cat ignores and stays away. Tabitha has always slept all day upstairs and new cat doesn't bother her. At night, she comes downstairs, and grudgingly sleeps on the opposite end of the couch, with an eye on the new cat the whole time. If they were to pass in the hallway, Tabitha would growl or even scream. We usually have one screaming event per day, although I don't think there's physical contact and new cat seems calm enough about the whole thing (now getting used to our little corgi is another matter! She's still terrified of her, even though corgi is elderly, deaf, and hasn't even noticed that we HAVE another cat). She sits at a distance and watches, or she walks away.
I am assuming that, with time, Tabitha will become used to the new cat. They aren't fighting. It's just Tabitha's aggressive growling whenever she sees new cat. This is probably normal after 3 weeks, right? Tabitha just had a really bad experience with 2 consecutive new cats hurting her, so it's natural that she is wary. Just wondered about timeline...has anyone brought a new cat in with a very grumpy alpha cat, and how long did it take for uneasy co-existence? I hate to see Tabitha unhappy but I so wanted another cat and I think that she needs the company. Thanks so much!
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