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Hi my new girl is 3-4 yo spayed female. In last 10 weeks we are now the 5th landing spot for her. Found as a spayed/chipped stray, brought to a vet for indeterminate length of time, surrendered by owner to vet, new shelter one month, second shelter 1 day, a family for a week and we took because the family was going to return her to the shelter because their child was allergic. We have 2 other cats/2 dogs. Geriatric cat 18 yo and 1 yo neutered male.
Our new cat Sweet Pea has limited tolerance for petting. She has gone from nipping hard to hardly nipping at all as we have learned her cues. She’s been in her own comfortable room, plenty of companionship of us basically being in the room and letting her approach us. Now she’s pretty nice! But if she’s sitting on her perch or on a chair and you offer your hand, she will Out of no where bite. Or hiss like a cobra. Other times she sniffs our hand and offers her head for scratching. Very unpredictable. After 3 weeks of cats sniffing under doors, going from her attacking her side of the door to just sniffing we have opened the door and placed a 6 ft tall gate to separate the cats. We started having the door open for just an hour.
Sometimes Sweet Pea ignores the cats. Other times she attacks the gate. When she ignores the cats and I’m in the room just online and approach her she will either bite me, hiss like a cobra or offer her head. I can never tell. I see no cues. None. Same posture, same point in time where the other cats have been no where in sight for a while. I just don’t know frankly if I can ever truly trust this cat. She has only been told “no” when she attacks the gate - not yelled at or anything and she has been given nothing but kindness since being here. She’s so unpredictable.
I hate the thought of returning her to the shelter system. I know I feel certain that I will not live with an animal I do not trust. My geriatric cat seems uninvolved. However the younger boy is starting to change. He was the most affectionate loving little thing you will ever meet and now periodically he nips at us. I’m sure it’s stress. With the changes I see in him and the question I have if I ever will trust this new cat I really don’t know what to do. I can’t see a time when Sweet Pea will ever be able to be around the geriatric cat as she is declawed. The boy at least has his.
The saying no good deed goes unpunished.....this has been so flipping stressful on the entire household. My husband with dementia is a worry, my little guy’s personality changing, the Betty White of cats .... all of it. I am actually thinking of returning her to a no kill. I need advice to keep going, to keep trying. And yes....every single friend and friend of friend of friend has been reached to see if someone with a good home could take her with no luck.
Our new cat Sweet Pea has limited tolerance for petting. She has gone from nipping hard to hardly nipping at all as we have learned her cues. She’s been in her own comfortable room, plenty of companionship of us basically being in the room and letting her approach us. Now she’s pretty nice! But if she’s sitting on her perch or on a chair and you offer your hand, she will Out of no where bite. Or hiss like a cobra. Other times she sniffs our hand and offers her head for scratching. Very unpredictable. After 3 weeks of cats sniffing under doors, going from her attacking her side of the door to just sniffing we have opened the door and placed a 6 ft tall gate to separate the cats. We started having the door open for just an hour.
Sometimes Sweet Pea ignores the cats. Other times she attacks the gate. When she ignores the cats and I’m in the room just online and approach her she will either bite me, hiss like a cobra or offer her head. I can never tell. I see no cues. None. Same posture, same point in time where the other cats have been no where in sight for a while. I just don’t know frankly if I can ever truly trust this cat. She has only been told “no” when she attacks the gate - not yelled at or anything and she has been given nothing but kindness since being here. She’s so unpredictable.
I hate the thought of returning her to the shelter system. I know I feel certain that I will not live with an animal I do not trust. My geriatric cat seems uninvolved. However the younger boy is starting to change. He was the most affectionate loving little thing you will ever meet and now periodically he nips at us. I’m sure it’s stress. With the changes I see in him and the question I have if I ever will trust this new cat I really don’t know what to do. I can’t see a time when Sweet Pea will ever be able to be around the geriatric cat as she is declawed. The boy at least has his.
The saying no good deed goes unpunished.....this has been so flipping stressful on the entire household. My husband with dementia is a worry, my little guy’s personality changing, the Betty White of cats .... all of it. I am actually thinking of returning her to a no kill. I need advice to keep going, to keep trying. And yes....every single friend and friend of friend of friend has been reached to see if someone with a good home could take her with no luck.