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Without reading ahead...I am grieving the loss of my cat and certainly am not ready for another one now, but I had the coolest cat ever. He is gone now. I cannot get gim back. Do I ever get another cat? I should mention I already have another cat but I never connected with him the way I did with the boy I lost. I got him 2nd bc I wanted Herman (my first boy) to have company. My mind is just all over the place after putting down Herman.
You don't replace them, but you make room in your life for a new friend. You help another cat or support a responsible, thoughtful breeder aiming for producing good, healthy, sound kittens, and you wing it.
With dogs, or cats, it's the same with us. We don't replace, we open our hearts further to others. We have a few cats here right now that pale in comparison (no offense to these cats, but they do) in loving behavior and personality compared to a few we've lost in the past. We lost an "all personality" cat years ago and we have some now that we treasure for that, but a few of them are very stand-offish. I love a cuddly cat, but I also have grown to really appreciate and really, REALLY like being around these creatures that sleep on my bed, eat the food I give them, but have this mysterious essence about them that I'll never understand. It's the closest I'll ever get to living with a wild creature, and I kind of like their independence and aloofness in their own right.
With all else, non-cuddle cats can sometimes bond with us when their only playmate/companion (in cat form) is no longer with us in this physical form. We've had non-cuddly animals turn into leeches when their favorite companion animal passes away, they know their friend is no longer here and attach themselves to us. I'm not saying this will happen with your cat, but stranger things HAVE happened and this can take weeks or months to notice.
Hang out with your current cat. Talk to him. Play with him, make sure he sees you deliver food to him. Spend time in the same room/general area as he is and read/hang out on the internet/etc., something quiet, and just enjoy his presence.
I had a female cat that was never a cuddler, never a lap cat and kind of ignored me in my youth. One day I just drug her into my lap and gently held her there. She was tense, but then un-tensed, and eventually settled into purring/kneading and from then on it was impossible to pry her out of my lap no matter what I was doing. She was like a barnacle with myself as her gravitational pull!
I can't advise you on getting another cat, but if it's something you like (a multi cat household), consider a well reared kitten that has had lots of handling from humans or a very outgoing, confident adult that speaks good "cat" and would do well with your current pal. A good cat rescue or shelter that assesses their personalities will be a big help.