Hi,
Our older cat is around 3 years old right now, and a couple of months ago we got a kitten. We introduced them slowly, not letting the kitten out of the bedroom for 2 weeks and then letting him out but putting him in a play pen for a few days, and now we let him out to wander the house.
Our older cat does not seem very happy with this. She will hide away in her spot (a pillow on a desk behind a laptop my partner uses and can "protect her) and stay there while he's out. She's basically the same size as him by now (she was the runt of the litter). We think she might just be unsure how to interact with other cats as she was taken away from her mom a bit too early we think, and being the runt might have been neglected. She also had cat flu when we got her so just a rough kittenhood for her.
He gets very excited when playing and sometimes jumps up to her spot and tries to investigate (and displayed some mating behaviors until recently - he got neutered Friday). He has not once displayed any aggressive body language towards her and is always chirping when he's coming up to her. We usually put him away when he jumps up to her space and let him chill out for a bit, but we have been trying to see how it would develop if we didn't.
He sniffs her and even tries licking her, but she's growling/hissing at him the whole time (although her ears are not tucked back and looks like it's more of a warning rather than proper aggression). Sometimes it looks like he bites her, and she screams, but it looks like he's being playful whereas she's just terrified and freaking out. Eventually she tries to run away after kind of snapping her jaw at him and pawing him a few times and he chases her until she gets to her litter box and hides inside it. He will just sit on the box looking at her growling but not go inside with her.
We honestly can't handle living like this for much longer as he has to be kept in a room and cries all the time when by himself. During the night he gets bored and starts trying to play with us while we sleep, so we end up sleeping on the couch to get some rest. Hopefully we can get them to get along or at least tolerate each other but if that does not happen we will have to give him away which we want to avoid.
Should we just leave them be and let them sort themselves out, letting him chase her around the house but keeping an eye on them so that she doesn't hurt him in self defense (or he doesn't suddenly get aggressive) ? Or should we keep putting him away when he goes up to "harass" her? Or only put him away when she hides in her litter box to keep it as her ultimate "safe space"?
Our older cat is around 3 years old right now, and a couple of months ago we got a kitten. We introduced them slowly, not letting the kitten out of the bedroom for 2 weeks and then letting him out but putting him in a play pen for a few days, and now we let him out to wander the house.
Our older cat does not seem very happy with this. She will hide away in her spot (a pillow on a desk behind a laptop my partner uses and can "protect her) and stay there while he's out. She's basically the same size as him by now (she was the runt of the litter). We think she might just be unsure how to interact with other cats as she was taken away from her mom a bit too early we think, and being the runt might have been neglected. She also had cat flu when we got her so just a rough kittenhood for her.
He gets very excited when playing and sometimes jumps up to her spot and tries to investigate (and displayed some mating behaviors until recently - he got neutered Friday). He has not once displayed any aggressive body language towards her and is always chirping when he's coming up to her. We usually put him away when he jumps up to her space and let him chill out for a bit, but we have been trying to see how it would develop if we didn't.
He sniffs her and even tries licking her, but she's growling/hissing at him the whole time (although her ears are not tucked back and looks like it's more of a warning rather than proper aggression). Sometimes it looks like he bites her, and she screams, but it looks like he's being playful whereas she's just terrified and freaking out. Eventually she tries to run away after kind of snapping her jaw at him and pawing him a few times and he chases her until she gets to her litter box and hides inside it. He will just sit on the box looking at her growling but not go inside with her.
We honestly can't handle living like this for much longer as he has to be kept in a room and cries all the time when by himself. During the night he gets bored and starts trying to play with us while we sleep, so we end up sleeping on the couch to get some rest. Hopefully we can get them to get along or at least tolerate each other but if that does not happen we will have to give him away which we want to avoid.
Should we just leave them be and let them sort themselves out, letting him chase her around the house but keeping an eye on them so that she doesn't hurt him in self defense (or he doesn't suddenly get aggressive) ? Or should we keep putting him away when he goes up to "harass" her? Or only put him away when she hides in her litter box to keep it as her ultimate "safe space"?