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He sounds like a good kid who is excited about his girlfriend and just trying to see what he can get away with. I think your rule is perfectly fair and is, in fact, the same rule I grew up with. My older brother explained to me that you need to earn trust and more leniency by being willing to compromise, and that parents are always going to seem unreasonable to you regardless of whether they think so or not.
I think it might help to explain your fears to your son, and to let him know that whilst you do respect his privacy and his relationship with his girlfriend, that unfortunately for him while he live in your house he must abide by your rules. Tell him that he deserves to be treated fairly as everyone does, and because he is a good boy and works hard, ask him what he thinks would be a reasonable compromise - one that gives him some privacy and still gives you some control over the situation. Tell him that being young and in love (or in lust, as the case may be) is exciting and wonderful and you want him to be able to enjoy every minute of it without the stress and burden you went through at his age. Let him know that you welcome his girlfriend but that these things need to work both ways and he must respect your opinions and rules as well, even if he doesn't agree with them.
And that's the best I can do! If he's the boy that he sounds like he will be reasonable with you and hopefully you can reach a mutually satisfactory solution! Good luck!
I think it might help to explain your fears to your son, and to let him know that whilst you do respect his privacy and his relationship with his girlfriend, that unfortunately for him while he live in your house he must abide by your rules. Tell him that he deserves to be treated fairly as everyone does, and because he is a good boy and works hard, ask him what he thinks would be a reasonable compromise - one that gives him some privacy and still gives you some control over the situation. Tell him that being young and in love (or in lust, as the case may be) is exciting and wonderful and you want him to be able to enjoy every minute of it without the stress and burden you went through at his age. Let him know that you welcome his girlfriend but that these things need to work both ways and he must respect your opinions and rules as well, even if he doesn't agree with them.
And that's the best I can do! If he's the boy that he sounds like he will be reasonable with you and hopefully you can reach a mutually satisfactory solution! Good luck!