Ok I'm asking others opinions on this and I honestly dont know who to turn to and was hoping some older adults or some parents could help us out.
Let me start by saying:
I have grown up with a very lenient family, I can count on one hand how many times I was grounded and or punished as a teen. Plus I always considered myself a good kid and hung out with other good kids. My roommate is the same, our parents were always very rational when it came to punishment and raising us in general. So we honestly dont understand this problem at all.
We have a friend that just turned 18 and is going to be moving in with us within a few weeks. But we are trying to figure out how to get her through the next couple of weeks. She is a good kid, getting good marks in school, doesnt do any sort of drugs and she has never drank, Shes just a geeky artsy kid. (just like myself and my room mate) Anyways her parents are very unrational when it comes to anything, they have grounded her multiple times for not answering her phone or if her phone dies even if she uses another persons phone and calls to tell them it is dead and that they can call one of us if they need her. And also her phone does not always get great signal at our house so they know to always try one of our phones if she doesnt answer hers.
When she mentioned moving out to be closer to both work and school and to get more independence they flipped out on her and refused to speak about it for days. Finally they said she could if she "proved herself" but never said anything else.
Last night her phone had died and she didnt know it and her parents called my room mates phone. And immediately said she could either come home now or stay here they just needed and answer but then when she said she would just stay and come home in the morning, (and use my charger we have the same phone) they flipped out on her and started yelling that she had 25 minutes to get home or they were calling the cops on her and getting her arrested. And even when she did come home she couldnt have a computer, phone, or car unless it was to work or school. Needless to say we have no idea how to react or if they could even do that since they are not her legal guardians anymore since she is 18.
But how can we one help her because she left here completely in tears and so frustrated that she didnt know what to do.
and two is it just us thinking her parents are over reacting? It just seems so wrong to treat your child like that.
and also if she were to move out without them knowing are there legal actions they could take?
Let me start by saying:
I have grown up with a very lenient family, I can count on one hand how many times I was grounded and or punished as a teen. Plus I always considered myself a good kid and hung out with other good kids. My roommate is the same, our parents were always very rational when it came to punishment and raising us in general. So we honestly dont understand this problem at all.
We have a friend that just turned 18 and is going to be moving in with us within a few weeks. But we are trying to figure out how to get her through the next couple of weeks. She is a good kid, getting good marks in school, doesnt do any sort of drugs and she has never drank, Shes just a geeky artsy kid. (just like myself and my room mate) Anyways her parents are very unrational when it comes to anything, they have grounded her multiple times for not answering her phone or if her phone dies even if she uses another persons phone and calls to tell them it is dead and that they can call one of us if they need her. And also her phone does not always get great signal at our house so they know to always try one of our phones if she doesnt answer hers.
When she mentioned moving out to be closer to both work and school and to get more independence they flipped out on her and refused to speak about it for days. Finally they said she could if she "proved herself" but never said anything else.
Last night her phone had died and she didnt know it and her parents called my room mates phone. And immediately said she could either come home now or stay here they just needed and answer but then when she said she would just stay and come home in the morning, (and use my charger we have the same phone) they flipped out on her and started yelling that she had 25 minutes to get home or they were calling the cops on her and getting her arrested. And even when she did come home she couldnt have a computer, phone, or car unless it was to work or school. Needless to say we have no idea how to react or if they could even do that since they are not her legal guardians anymore since she is 18.
But how can we one help her because she left here completely in tears and so frustrated that she didnt know what to do.
and two is it just us thinking her parents are over reacting? It just seems so wrong to treat your child like that.
and also if she were to move out without them knowing are there legal actions they could take?