I have a female that is 7, and a male that is 6, they have never been good friends. Lily lost her sister at one year old, and we got Jethro a couple weeks later, he was three months. I kept him in our bedroom for a few weeks, before bringing him out. Lily hiss a few times, and that was it. Jethro used to aggravate her like a pesky little brother, jumping almost on her back, throwing his paws wide. he used to do the same to us, when he was close to a doorway, he would jump out at you, throwing his paws wide, as if he was trying to surprise, or scare. Sometimes they got a little rough with each other, but otherwise were okay. Here lately I have worried Lily is bullying him, when we aren't around....Twice in the last month, he has had a place on his thigh, the hair was sticking up, and it was a sore spot, she had to have done it. For some reason, Jethro has always been afraid of a lot of things, you sneeze, he runs, Fedex backup beeper sounds, he runs, the neighbor's fire up the lawn mower, he runs and hides....I hope Lily hasn't caused this. Jethro's mom was hit by a car when he was real small, so he was bottle fed by vet techs. He doesn't know, or have some kitty characteristics, because he never knew his mom...he doesn't know how to make bread, he rarely noses at all, he isn't a lap sitter, but he will sit with both of his front legs across my leg and lay against me. He doesn't like you getting close in his face at all, whereas Lily will let you kiss her on the head, face or wherever.
About 3-4 months ago, this kitten, I thought was maybe 6 months old, would come around 3-4 days, then leave for 2-3 weeks, then come back again. She was skin and bones, so I started feeding her, she has stayed her for about 5 weeks now. I wasn't sure we wanted another, but what to do? I took her for her shots, they shaved her belly, and said there was no scar like she had been fixed, and that she was between 1-2 years old.
I kept her in our spare bathroom/wash room on our enclosed back porch for a week. I bought multi cat Feliway and put in two rooms, took a sock and rubbed her, and our two other cats, and left it for them to smell. Jethro and Lily used to watch her outside with me, and smell me when I came in, Jethro would stand at the door and paw at the window, or jump at her, when she came up to the window on the door. they also came face to face a couple of times, when I was trying to go in, or out. One day, one of our cats came to the bathroom door, while I was in there with Daisy (that's what we have named her). there is about and inch and a quarter gap under the door, in the middle, because it;s an old house. They pawed it, and she went to the crack, and peeped under, then rolled on her side and back exposing her belly, and sticking her paws under the door.
The other day, we decide to let them meet, so I brought Daisy into the living room, Lily was behind the kitty condo, and Jethro was sitting in the doorway from the living room, to the dining room. Immediately, Lily started growling and hissing, but she stayed behind the condo, Jethro eased more into the doorway, and just watched wide eyed. Next, I was shocked, Daisy rolled on her side and stretched out, submissive like, lightly pawing, and pulling herself along the floor. She got even with Lily, and nothing happened, Jethro was still just watching, no growling, hissing or anything. Then out of the blue, Daisy jumped up, made a beeline for Jethro and jumped on him, he ran into the dining room, in front of his bed, and she charged and jumped on him again. Jethro ran out on the back porch, and climbed the stepladder, onto the cabinet (It's a kitchen cabinet someone put there with a counter top on it, they love to sit up there and look outside). Dasiy came to the ladder, and started slowly up howling as she went, Jethro was wailing by then. She kept on, until Jethro was backed into the corner, and he was standing on the window ledge. Daisy kept coming and yeowling, until she got on the counter top right in front of him, then calmly walked over to the water dish, and drank.
Then, what made me angry, was poor Jethro came down the ladder, ran into the living room, and every time he got near Lily, she hissed and growled at him too...he didn't know what was going on. Later that night, and the next morning, Lily still kept growling and hissing at Jethro, when I tried to give them snacks. I haven't even given them snacks together since then, because I don't want a repeat. I put Daisy back in the bathroom, I let her out onto the porch in the mornings, while Lily and Jethro are sleeping. Then put them on the porch in the afternoon/evening, and let Daisy roam the house for awhile. I'm just waiting, not sure what else to do, I sure don't want a repeat of that again. I feel so bad for Jethro...Another thing is, when he was younger, he used to sleep on the bed with Lily, or nap with me and Lily. Then it got to where he wouldn't get up there, and if Lily was already up there, and he jumped up there, she would jump down and leave. I know there is some jealousy, but I try real hard to treat them both the same. I play with them both,brush them both, give them snacks at the same time, tuna juice when we have it...
About 3-4 months ago, this kitten, I thought was maybe 6 months old, would come around 3-4 days, then leave for 2-3 weeks, then come back again. She was skin and bones, so I started feeding her, she has stayed her for about 5 weeks now. I wasn't sure we wanted another, but what to do? I took her for her shots, they shaved her belly, and said there was no scar like she had been fixed, and that she was between 1-2 years old.
I kept her in our spare bathroom/wash room on our enclosed back porch for a week. I bought multi cat Feliway and put in two rooms, took a sock and rubbed her, and our two other cats, and left it for them to smell. Jethro and Lily used to watch her outside with me, and smell me when I came in, Jethro would stand at the door and paw at the window, or jump at her, when she came up to the window on the door. they also came face to face a couple of times, when I was trying to go in, or out. One day, one of our cats came to the bathroom door, while I was in there with Daisy (that's what we have named her). there is about and inch and a quarter gap under the door, in the middle, because it;s an old house. They pawed it, and she went to the crack, and peeped under, then rolled on her side and back exposing her belly, and sticking her paws under the door.
The other day, we decide to let them meet, so I brought Daisy into the living room, Lily was behind the kitty condo, and Jethro was sitting in the doorway from the living room, to the dining room. Immediately, Lily started growling and hissing, but she stayed behind the condo, Jethro eased more into the doorway, and just watched wide eyed. Next, I was shocked, Daisy rolled on her side and stretched out, submissive like, lightly pawing, and pulling herself along the floor. She got even with Lily, and nothing happened, Jethro was still just watching, no growling, hissing or anything. Then out of the blue, Daisy jumped up, made a beeline for Jethro and jumped on him, he ran into the dining room, in front of his bed, and she charged and jumped on him again. Jethro ran out on the back porch, and climbed the stepladder, onto the cabinet (It's a kitchen cabinet someone put there with a counter top on it, they love to sit up there and look outside). Dasiy came to the ladder, and started slowly up howling as she went, Jethro was wailing by then. She kept on, until Jethro was backed into the corner, and he was standing on the window ledge. Daisy kept coming and yeowling, until she got on the counter top right in front of him, then calmly walked over to the water dish, and drank.
Then, what made me angry, was poor Jethro came down the ladder, ran into the living room, and every time he got near Lily, she hissed and growled at him too...he didn't know what was going on. Later that night, and the next morning, Lily still kept growling and hissing at Jethro, when I tried to give them snacks. I haven't even given them snacks together since then, because I don't want a repeat. I put Daisy back in the bathroom, I let her out onto the porch in the mornings, while Lily and Jethro are sleeping. Then put them on the porch in the afternoon/evening, and let Daisy roam the house for awhile. I'm just waiting, not sure what else to do, I sure don't want a repeat of that again. I feel so bad for Jethro...Another thing is, when he was younger, he used to sleep on the bed with Lily, or nap with me and Lily. Then it got to where he wouldn't get up there, and if Lily was already up there, and he jumped up there, she would jump down and leave. I know there is some jealousy, but I try real hard to treat them both the same. I play with them both,brush them both, give them snacks at the same time, tuna juice when we have it...
