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I understand your plight, but I would NOT tell your friend what C said to you. In fact, he may be using you for that, not having enough courage to tell her himself. What you can do is tell C that he must have a talk with your friend. Yes, that will hurt, but not as much as finding out he may be hurting in other ways, or the hurt that will be caused from you telling her. Please don't take this the wrong way (as I can tell you are a very good, kind friend), but this their business to sort out, not yours. I know you want to protect your friend, but it's their relationship, and they have to do what's right.
I know this sounds brutal, but I'm speaking from experience: if a guy is not doing what you want, or what means a lot to you, he's not likely to change. We all deserve to find a mate who does believe in what we believe in, does the things that are important to us, etc. We need to move on, painful though it is, and find that happiness with someone who truly loves and appreciates us. Don't accept 2nd-best in a mate.
I know this sounds brutal, but I'm speaking from experience: if a guy is not doing what you want, or what means a lot to you, he's not likely to change. We all deserve to find a mate who does believe in what we believe in, does the things that are important to us, etc. We need to move on, painful though it is, and find that happiness with someone who truly loves and appreciates us. Don't accept 2nd-best in a mate.