Hi all,
I'm having a lot of behavioral issues with the cats right now and I'm just so weary and exhausted of dealing with it. I know that we can't make cats into what we want them to be, but at the same time I'd like to feel relaxed in my own house.
The main things we are dealing with right now are:
Their behavior is wearing us both down and at this point it's made me not want to adopt any more cats, ever. I feel so angry and resentful and I want to be able to enjoy my relationship with them without feeling that way.
Please help.
I'm having a lot of behavioral issues with the cats right now and I'm just so weary and exhausted of dealing with it. I know that we can't make cats into what we want them to be, but at the same time I'd like to feel relaxed in my own house.
The main things we are dealing with right now are:
- Simon purposefully knocks over water glasses by my side of the sofa. Thankfully all we ever drink is water, but if not, we would have had to have our couch replaced as many times as he's done this. He leaves them alone everywhere else, even the same glass on Patrick's side, but always, always, always knocks the one on my side over. We have gotten a lot better about remembering and trying to prevent this by moving the glass when we get up, but it's infuriating to think I can't walk away from the sofa for 1-2 minutes without a cat knocking over my glass. They eat 90+% wet food and also have a water fountain that we keep clean and filled, so there is no dehydration problem.
- Boys chasing/biting Joni. I've always had this issue but lately it's gotten worse and I'm so tired of it. Sometimes they start it, sometimes she does, but once it gets started, they won't finish it unless we physically separate them. They chase her over and over and over, biting her neck and trying to pull her down. She tries to come up on the bed to get away from them but can't seem to figure out that she needs to stay in between us - instead she just walks from side to side on the bed while they go underneath to catch her on each side. We often get caught with claws while she runs/they jump up to claw. I've got a bleeding puncture in my arm as I type this thanks to Garfunkel trying to get at Joni when she jumped up onto the bed.
- Food aggression. I barely have the loosest of control over their aggression when I feed them. If anyone else besides me feeds them, all bets are off. They scream, claw, jump up on the counters, fight each other for the bowls, etc. This has meant the reintroduction of dry food when we are away overnight, because I can't ask people to come feed them when they will get bitten and clawed. (Joni bit Patrick's mom, not hard thankfully but still.) Not to mention the times I am sick or away for the night and Patrick needs to feed them. They eat high quality, expensive canned food and when they were last at the vet about 11 months ago they were all slightly overweight, so I know they are getting enough.
Their behavior is wearing us both down and at this point it's made me not want to adopt any more cats, ever. I feel so angry and resentful and I want to be able to enjoy my relationship with them without feeling that way.
Please help.