Yesterday We had to say goodbye to our 21 yr old male cat. He and our female cat have been together most of their lives. My question is what should I do now? Obviously our female kitty is grieving over him. Should we get another male cat whether it is a kitten or older cat or what would be the best road to take for her?
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Grieving Female Cat
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Im NOT sure how to answer that question at the moment..cause I just saw ure post...But I do want to say im so very sorry for ure loss of ure kitty..
.MAY HE RIP...SWEET KITTY
AND HOPE URE OTHER KITTY THAT IS MISSING HIM...GETS ALONG OK...
Talk to your female and let her know you are grieving, too. This seems to help. Give her lots of extra attention and let her grieve.
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I would not recommend getting another cat at this point. Your sweet girl (and you!) need time to grieve and regroup. I’m sorry for your loss.
Oh no don't get another one now!! She is already under enough stress and sadness as it is.
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I am very sorry for your loss. 
I do think adding another cat at this time will add to her stress. If your girl is on the older side herself, she also may not appreciate having another cat around in general, especially if it's a younger, more active one. I don't have any experience with cat grief but I think letting her grief run its course is probably for the best.
Again, I'm sorry for your loss.
I do think adding another cat at this time will add to her stress. If your girl is on the older side herself, she also may not appreciate having another cat around in general, especially if it's a younger, more active one. I don't have any experience with cat grief but I think letting her grief run its course is probably for the best. Again, I'm sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry for the loss of your cat. If your girl is a senior the kindest thing that you could do is to let her live out the remainder of her life as the only cat. Newcomers just disrupt their routine and can stress them out.
Sorry for your loss 21 years, you gave him a good life 
We had this and our particular female was grieving for 2-3 months. Strange behaviour that was very out of sorts so you need to keep her close and not get another one yet and judge what she wants. We did introduce a cat after this time and they have become best of pals but all kitties are different and you will know her best
21 years, you gave him a good life We had this and our particular female was grieving for 2-3 months. Strange behaviour that was very out of sorts so you need to keep her close and not get another one yet and judge what she wants. We did introduce a cat after this time and they have become best of pals but all kitties are different and you will know her best
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I am so sincerely sorry for your loss. 21 years is a long time for a cat, yet still too short for us humans. Obviously you gave him the good life you possibly could. Please hang in there.
Allow your other cat to grieve for the time being. And allow yourself to grieve as well. His passing obviously have impacted your female cat, so another cat may stress her more, as what others commented above.
Are your cats the same age? Poor baby, animals also mourn. I cannot imagine how she and you may be feeling right now.
Sending my thoughts and warm hugs to you both.
Allow your other cat to grieve for the time being. And allow yourself to grieve as well. His passing obviously have impacted your female cat, so another cat may stress her more, as what others commented above.
Are your cats the same age? Poor baby, animals also mourn. I cannot imagine how she and you may be feeling right now.
Sending my thoughts and warm hugs to you both.
Yes, now is the time to grieve together. I am so very sorry for your loss, I know how empty your house seems now without your sweet boy in it. Time is the only thing that helps, just get through one day at a time....
A twenty one year old cat needs lots of extra attention and comforting at a time like this, it takes weeks befor things start to get a little better, just like a mama that has had her kittens disappear to different homes. A new cat at a time like this would add to her stress, she needs quiet and you. I pray you all will find peace in your hearts from knowing your sweet boy is safe and is at peace himself because he holds your love in his heart. He will always be as close as your thoughts and prayers. The incredibe bond of love you all share can never be broken, "Death cannot take that which never dies"......give that precious old girl a kiss from me, and tell her she is held in the hearts of many now. My prayers are wityh you......
A twenty one year old cat needs lots of extra attention and comforting at a time like this, it takes weeks befor things start to get a little better, just like a mama that has had her kittens disappear to different homes. A new cat at a time like this would add to her stress, she needs quiet and you. I pray you all will find peace in your hearts from knowing your sweet boy is safe and is at peace himself because he holds your love in his heart. He will always be as close as your thoughts and prayers. The incredibe bond of love you all share can never be broken, "Death cannot take that which never dies"......give that precious old girl a kiss from me, and tell her she is held in the hearts of many now. My prayers are wityh you......
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Thank youIm NOT sure how to answer that question at the moment..cause I just saw ure post...But I do want to say im so very sorry for ure loss of ure kitty..
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Thanks!
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I definitely will and thank you!
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Thank you!Im NOT sure how to answer that question at the moment..cause I just saw ure post...But I do want to say im so very sorry for ure loss of ure kitty..
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Thank you so much for the response. I truly believe That we will see him in heaven one day along with our other pets.
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Thank you so much!
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The female cat Gizmo is about 15 yrs old
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That seems like a good idea. She is 15 yrs old
