is he the kind of person you can have a frank conversation with? Seems like he need a reality check about what help he needs and what you can, or can’t, provide.Thank you for your concern.
The German health system is wonderful if you are willing to take advantage of it. My partner could get disability benefits regardless of his financial status to pay for cleaning, washing and ironing, cooking, transport - anything he needs - all the things I've been doing. But he has to apply himself and be assessed. I can't apply on his behalf unless I have power of attorney, which I would have accepted a few years ago but it was never offered and I'm not so sure about it any more. I feel too tired. He is now in hospital and I hope he will be checked by internists, neurologists, urologists, cardiologists and psychiatrists while he's there because we're unlikely to get him back into a hospital again unless it is another real emergency.
I'm fine - sitting here quietly with 2 black cats - one warming my back and the other next to me. The other 2 seem to have hidden themselves away but will reappear when I decide to go to bed!