sometimes it is that easyOriginally Posted by emb_78
Thank you Felicia!! You make it sound so easy!
Well last summer I found out he was talking to a whole lot of girls sexually on the internet!Originally Posted by caprice
Erin, hang in there. I know it can be hard. Have you tried talking to him? I haven't read all the posts all the way through--I'm sorry, but I know once you start to open up to him things will be better for you because you will get that extra weight off of your shoulders. I use to keep things built up inside of me because I was afraid to tell my husband, but in the last few months I've learned I wanted a stronger relationship with my husband and a happier life, and you know what--it worked. If he loves you and you love him, he will make it work. I am also a very sensitive person, so I know what you must be going through. About the trust issue, why don't you trust him? Has he proved to you he can't be trusted? I really hope and pray things will work out for the better!
Just so you all know I am in the works to find out if he went to a strip club on Saturday!!! I am 100% againist that, and told him if I find out he went I will bring the kitten home that I want!!!Originally Posted by emb_78
My husband and I just had a fight, and he took off. Happy sweetest day to me!!! don't know what to do anymore. I wanted to stay home and have a quite romantic evening. He wanted me to go out with him and his friends. We have been fighting a lot lately and he gave me a card today with a dozen yellow roses, my favorite!!! We just went out for about an hour and then his brother invited him to a bachlor party. Well guess where he is going??? This makes no sence to me... I let him do what he wants when he wants, he doesn't know just how lucky he has it!!!
I told him to take his car and don't come back!!!
That's not good. What did he say about that?Originally Posted by emb_78
Well last summer I found out he was talking to a whole lot of girls sexually on the internet!
He denyed it of course, then told me he was afraid of being married. He said it was dumb. That is the reason we went to counseling in the first place.Originally Posted by caprice
That's not good. What did he say about that?
I'm so sorry that you're having all of these problems...I hope that everything gets better for you very soon, you're in my thoughts and prayers!!Originally Posted by emb_78
He denyed it of course, then told me he was afraid of being married. He said it was dumb. That is the reason we went to counseling in the first place.
Thank you!!!Originally Posted by babyharley
I'm so sorry that you're having all of these problems...I hope that everything gets better for you very soon, you're in my thoughts and prayers!!
I am very sorry that you are having this difficulty. It sounds like the day started out bad, with each of you having different expectations!Originally Posted by emb_78
My husband and I just had a fight, and he took off. Happy sweetest day to me!!! don't know what to do anymore. I wanted to stay home and have a quite romantic evening. He wanted me to go out with him and his friends.
Your favorite roses! Sounds like he did try, initially, to make you happy! But then he ruined it by chosing the bachelor party over you!Originally Posted by emb_78
We have been fighting a lot lately and he gave me a card today with a dozen yellow roses, my favorite!!! We just went out for about an hour and then his brother invited him to a bachlor party. Well guess where he is going??? This makes no sence to me... I let him do what he wants when he wants, he doesn't know just how lucky he has it!!!
I think you should apologize to him for saying don't come back. From reading your other posts, it sounds like this has gotten blown out of proportion. It sounds like he was thoughtless. It was wrong of him not to consider your feelings, but that one action should not end a 10 year relationship.Originally Posted by emb_78
I told him to take his car and don't come back!!!
In another one of her threads on this subject, she says she just found out he was having sexual relationships online as well..........plus being verbally abusive....Originally Posted by Beckiboo
I am very sorry that you are having this difficulty. It sounds like the day started out bad, with each of you having different expectations!
Your favorite roses! Sounds like he did try, initially, to make you happy! But then he ruined it by chosing the bachelor party over you!
I think you should apologize to him for saying don't come back. From reading your other posts, it sounds like this has gotten blown out of proportion. It sounds like he was thoughtless. It was wrong of him not to consider your feelings, but that one action should not end a 10 year relationship.
Yes we are still going. Our next appiontment is Wednesday!Originally Posted by caprice
are ya'll still going to counseling? if not, maybe you can sit down and ask him to go with you? Atleast he went, that should show you something
Please read carefully about what I'm about to say because I'm saying it to help you, not make you feel worse. People do and say things and whatever their intentions, they can't make us feel a certain way. I think you are vulnerable and need to work on building your self confidence. Because his behavior reflects on him, not you.Originally Posted by emb_78
Yes we are still going. Our next appiontment is Wednesday!
He did you to the strip club. When he does that he makes me feel like a fat slob, and that I am not good enough for him. Also he thinks I am emotionally abusing myself, not him. I have no self confidence.Is he right could I be doin all this to myself????
I think you should reevaluate your relationship and decide if it's worth saving, or are you just staying because it's comfortable and it's what you're used to? If you want to fight to make it work then I'd suggest couple's counseling and if he doesn't want to go, to voice your concerns to him calmly. It's not unreasonable to want your husband to want to spend more time with you, but you have to get to the root of it and find out why he doesn't. Sometimes people just grow apart, especially when they've been together since they were younger and they have changed. I know it's scary to think about but, IMO, it's even scarier to think about living in a...troubled marriage.Originally Posted by emb_78
It is a recent thing that is just getting worse... We have been married for 2 years and dated for 8 before that! I am afraid to divorce him because I am 27 and my mother went through a lot BIGGER things with my dad and they are still together... They had many, many rough years, but hey love eachother so much now!
Thanks Katachtig!!! I called a psychologist for an appiontment next week!Originally Posted by katachtig
Please read carefully about what I'm about to say because I'm saying it to help you, not make you feel worse. People do and say things and whatever their intentions, they can't make us feel a certain way. I think you are vulnerable and need to work on building your self confidence. Because his behavior reflects on him, not you.
I know because I'm fighting this type of what I call "filling in the blanks". You are a wonderful person and what he does has to do with him, not you.