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we adopted a kitten on the 6th of August, 2016 at about 8 weeks of age. Everything was fine (despite some minor disputes) between him and our two three year old girls until recently. Now that he's getting older, more problems are arising. He is neutered, neutered about a week after we adopted him. Now that he's older and becoming more of a teen/young adult, he has a constant drive for dominance.
Our older female (older by a month) has always been the matriarch, the top cat. With this new male, he wants to be top cat, and she's not about to just step down for a new kitten.
He is constantly attacking her and our other female when he gets the chanc (sometimes to the point of hair being ripped out and cutting each other up). Both females try to run away and do so yelling and hissing in protest. He'll continue to Persue them, despite their efforts to tell him enough is enough. The older female will sometimes stand up for herself and fight back, but eventually she wants no buisiness with the dispute.
The male will attempt to bite the oldest female's neck and mount her. She absolutely does not tolerate this and will turn around and fight him, which leads to me having to break them up.
He's now starting to spray our household walls. Our younger female, isn't comfortable using litter boxes anymore as he marks all of the walls and sides of the pans. (We have 4 boxes, all in different locations). He is also deliberately peeing in clothing. He isn't marking but actually peeing in our clothing.
It's getting to the point where I feel it's not worth the stress to myself and my cats. Despite my attempted efforts, nothing has worked. I've tried to feed his ego, letting him eat first, attention first and everything for him first. I've tried positive reinforcement, removing him from situations to cool off elsewhere.. nothing works. He believes he's entitled to everyone's food, cat or human, and is a constant struggle ensuring our very submissive cat feels comfortable enough to eat. They all eat in separate locations, but she still feels threatened and will not eat half the time without me sitting and consoling her. If the others don't finish before he dies, and my eye is awayvfor a second, he butts in and takes their food, grabbing a mouthful as I rip him away.
Last thing to try is possibly feliway, but seeing how no matter what I do he still tortures these two cats to no end.
Please help me solve this situation..
The last thing I want is to see him go, but the other thing is I don't want my other cats feeling unsafe in their own home.
Our older female (older by a month) has always been the matriarch, the top cat. With this new male, he wants to be top cat, and she's not about to just step down for a new kitten.
He is constantly attacking her and our other female when he gets the chanc (sometimes to the point of hair being ripped out and cutting each other up). Both females try to run away and do so yelling and hissing in protest. He'll continue to Persue them, despite their efforts to tell him enough is enough. The older female will sometimes stand up for herself and fight back, but eventually she wants no buisiness with the dispute.
The male will attempt to bite the oldest female's neck and mount her. She absolutely does not tolerate this and will turn around and fight him, which leads to me having to break them up.
He's now starting to spray our household walls. Our younger female, isn't comfortable using litter boxes anymore as he marks all of the walls and sides of the pans. (We have 4 boxes, all in different locations). He is also deliberately peeing in clothing. He isn't marking but actually peeing in our clothing.
It's getting to the point where I feel it's not worth the stress to myself and my cats. Despite my attempted efforts, nothing has worked. I've tried to feed his ego, letting him eat first, attention first and everything for him first. I've tried positive reinforcement, removing him from situations to cool off elsewhere.. nothing works. He believes he's entitled to everyone's food, cat or human, and is a constant struggle ensuring our very submissive cat feels comfortable enough to eat. They all eat in separate locations, but she still feels threatened and will not eat half the time without me sitting and consoling her. If the others don't finish before he dies, and my eye is awayvfor a second, he butts in and takes their food, grabbing a mouthful as I rip him away.
Last thing to try is possibly feliway, but seeing how no matter what I do he still tortures these two cats to no end.
Please help me solve this situation..
The last thing I want is to see him go, but the other thing is I don't want my other cats feeling unsafe in their own home.
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