Hi everyone. We're desperately struggling with introducing a new kitten to household, and any advice would be greatly appreciated.
We have a ~1 year and 1 month old cat, who we've had since he was a young kitten. He still has a lot of kitten energy and is very playful despite being an adult now. We play with him as much as we can, but working from home we are not always free to. We thought he might enjoy a companion to play with and spend time with while we are out.
We have previously introduced him to my sister in laws cat when she house-sat for around a week or so, and while he hissed at her cat to start with and there were a few tense moments between the two, they were coexisting peacefully within a few days. Because of this we hoped for a fairly smooth process if we were to adopt a second cat.
We recently adopted a gorgeous young kitten, just over 4 months old, and he has quickly grown close to me and confident in our home. Everything seemed to be going great, until we tried introducing him to our resident cat.
We started by keeping them separate, then scent swapping, then visuals, and things went fine at every stage, so we moved the process along fairly quickly. They don't react to each others scent at all and there was no hissing or signs of fear. They seemed curious about each other and tried to reach each other whenever possible. But from when we started allowing them to spend time together it's devolved into a nightmare.
Our resident cat does not seem to be afraid of the new kitten at all, he doesn't show any fear in his body language and has never hissed at the new kitten. They can even eat in the same room in close proximity to each other without issue. But he seems to think the kitten is just a new toy for him to play with to his hearts content. Introductions usually start fine, a bit of sniffing and some light play fighting. But then our resident cat keeps going, and going, and going, continually escalating the situation... pinning the new kitten to the ground over and over and over again, chasing him around constantly, stalking him, pawing at him while he's in his hiding space... and while it doesn't seem to be causing any harm our kitten HATES it, hissing, growling and fighting back, hiding for a bit before coming out and running around again. We try distracting them, playing with them, creating positive moments where they eat and play in the same space instead of focusing on each other, we've even tried to 'wait it out' and let resident cat tire himself out, but it never ends and we have to resort to separating them again. Worst of all, the more scared and angry our kitten gets the more "fun" resident cat seems to think this game is.
I feel guilty for taking the process faster than the shelter recommended, but I don't see how returning to scent swapping (which neither cat reacts to) or having them watch each other through a baby gate for a week will fix this incessant "play" fighting issue.
It's been 5 days and I'm already feeling like I'm at my wits end. I've been searching desperately for advice, but little of it seems applicable to this situation since there is no fear or aggression from resident cats part, it all seems to stem from an insatiable desire to play and him seeing new kitten as prey. We have one of those pheromone dispensers, for the fat lot of good those seem to do. We've tried to foster only positive moments but its impossible in this environment. I've been in tears because I've already formed such a close bond with the new little guy and I can't see this ending in any way other than him having to be returned to the shelter for his own sake if this doesn't stop. If anyone has any advice I would greatly appreciate it.
We have a ~1 year and 1 month old cat, who we've had since he was a young kitten. He still has a lot of kitten energy and is very playful despite being an adult now. We play with him as much as we can, but working from home we are not always free to. We thought he might enjoy a companion to play with and spend time with while we are out.
We have previously introduced him to my sister in laws cat when she house-sat for around a week or so, and while he hissed at her cat to start with and there were a few tense moments between the two, they were coexisting peacefully within a few days. Because of this we hoped for a fairly smooth process if we were to adopt a second cat.
We recently adopted a gorgeous young kitten, just over 4 months old, and he has quickly grown close to me and confident in our home. Everything seemed to be going great, until we tried introducing him to our resident cat.
We started by keeping them separate, then scent swapping, then visuals, and things went fine at every stage, so we moved the process along fairly quickly. They don't react to each others scent at all and there was no hissing or signs of fear. They seemed curious about each other and tried to reach each other whenever possible. But from when we started allowing them to spend time together it's devolved into a nightmare.
Our resident cat does not seem to be afraid of the new kitten at all, he doesn't show any fear in his body language and has never hissed at the new kitten. They can even eat in the same room in close proximity to each other without issue. But he seems to think the kitten is just a new toy for him to play with to his hearts content. Introductions usually start fine, a bit of sniffing and some light play fighting. But then our resident cat keeps going, and going, and going, continually escalating the situation... pinning the new kitten to the ground over and over and over again, chasing him around constantly, stalking him, pawing at him while he's in his hiding space... and while it doesn't seem to be causing any harm our kitten HATES it, hissing, growling and fighting back, hiding for a bit before coming out and running around again. We try distracting them, playing with them, creating positive moments where they eat and play in the same space instead of focusing on each other, we've even tried to 'wait it out' and let resident cat tire himself out, but it never ends and we have to resort to separating them again. Worst of all, the more scared and angry our kitten gets the more "fun" resident cat seems to think this game is.
I feel guilty for taking the process faster than the shelter recommended, but I don't see how returning to scent swapping (which neither cat reacts to) or having them watch each other through a baby gate for a week will fix this incessant "play" fighting issue.
It's been 5 days and I'm already feeling like I'm at my wits end. I've been searching desperately for advice, but little of it seems applicable to this situation since there is no fear or aggression from resident cats part, it all seems to stem from an insatiable desire to play and him seeing new kitten as prey. We have one of those pheromone dispensers, for the fat lot of good those seem to do. We've tried to foster only positive moments but its impossible in this environment. I've been in tears because I've already formed such a close bond with the new little guy and I can't see this ending in any way other than him having to be returned to the shelter for his own sake if this doesn't stop. If anyone has any advice I would greatly appreciate it.