Hi everyone! My cat Toby is 8 and we recently got a kitten (named Pita) who is 5 months. I’ve done my research on proper introductions and it seems to be going well (better than I thought it would) but I can’t find much insight about my current situation - Toby seems to like the kitten, but has been treating me like sh*t.
It’s been making me very emotional because I feel like our bond has been broken. He’s never been the most affectionate cat, has always been kind of an A-Hole but I love that about him, and he’s always let me know that he loves me too. He would sit on my lap a few times a day, slow blink when I talk to him, etc. I’ve been working from home since the pandemic started, and he’s gotten more clingy which I loved - I just thought he was bored. He used to be an outdoor cat and loves to play.
After months of research, we decided to get a kitten. Since we got Pita, he wants nothing to do with me. We followed all protocol for proper introduction (Pita was kept in a separate room for a week, feeding on either side of the door, feeding treats together, etc) After a week, they met each other and now have daily playtime & sleep next to each other. Pita is OBSESSED with Toby, which is definitely getting on Toby’s nerves, so we do separate them at least once a day. I’m trying not to disrupt Toby’s routine too much. I say Good Morning to him first, feed him first, and try to give him adequate attention but he just ...isn’t letting me? He won’t come near me. If I go over to him, he meows and walks away. I tried to bribe him into laying with me today, with some treats, but he just took the treats and went under the bed.
Will he ever love me again? I feel like I’ve ruined his life and don’t know how to fix it.
It’s been making me very emotional because I feel like our bond has been broken. He’s never been the most affectionate cat, has always been kind of an A-Hole but I love that about him, and he’s always let me know that he loves me too. He would sit on my lap a few times a day, slow blink when I talk to him, etc. I’ve been working from home since the pandemic started, and he’s gotten more clingy which I loved - I just thought he was bored. He used to be an outdoor cat and loves to play.
After months of research, we decided to get a kitten. Since we got Pita, he wants nothing to do with me. We followed all protocol for proper introduction (Pita was kept in a separate room for a week, feeding on either side of the door, feeding treats together, etc) After a week, they met each other and now have daily playtime & sleep next to each other. Pita is OBSESSED with Toby, which is definitely getting on Toby’s nerves, so we do separate them at least once a day. I’m trying not to disrupt Toby’s routine too much. I say Good Morning to him first, feed him first, and try to give him adequate attention but he just ...isn’t letting me? He won’t come near me. If I go over to him, he meows and walks away. I tried to bribe him into laying with me today, with some treats, but he just took the treats and went under the bed.
Will he ever love me again? I feel like I’ve ruined his life and don’t know how to fix it.