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We are on day 11 of trying to introduce our new 1yo female cat to our resident 2yo male cat.
1yo female cat has finally warmed up to the home and her territory and seems pretty happy and confident. She is still sequestered most of the time in a room, but we've been allowing her run of the house when resident cat is napping in the garage during the day.
Resident cat started off super fine with this but has been getting worse over time. He is *obsessed* with new cat's door and spends all of his time staked out in front of it meowing gently at her. Or maybe he's meowing at me to open the door.
We've been doing feedings between a baby gate and they do...okay with these. The new cat hisses once and then seems to ignore resident cat for a half hour afterwards. Resident cat has no problems stress eating right in front of her room but doesn't stop meowing and clearly wants in.
Resident cat also urinated outside of his litter box yesterday for the first time ever. He's been pawing at the floor all over the house non-stop (which is something he usually does if he doesn't like the smell there or if he's going to use the bathroom).
What should we do? How do we calm down resident cat? I have Feliway everywhere. Should I let the door be open with the gate indefinitely? Seeing her seems to calm him down somewhat and stop the meowing slightly.
Alternately, I can gate him in downstairs and try to stop the obsession. But we've tried this and it just starts up again the moment he's free.
What's my next move? Just wait it out?
1yo female cat has finally warmed up to the home and her territory and seems pretty happy and confident. She is still sequestered most of the time in a room, but we've been allowing her run of the house when resident cat is napping in the garage during the day.
Resident cat started off super fine with this but has been getting worse over time. He is *obsessed* with new cat's door and spends all of his time staked out in front of it meowing gently at her. Or maybe he's meowing at me to open the door.
We've been doing feedings between a baby gate and they do...okay with these. The new cat hisses once and then seems to ignore resident cat for a half hour afterwards. Resident cat has no problems stress eating right in front of her room but doesn't stop meowing and clearly wants in.
Resident cat also urinated outside of his litter box yesterday for the first time ever. He's been pawing at the floor all over the house non-stop (which is something he usually does if he doesn't like the smell there or if he's going to use the bathroom).
What should we do? How do we calm down resident cat? I have Feliway everywhere. Should I let the door be open with the gate indefinitely? Seeing her seems to calm him down somewhat and stop the meowing slightly.
Alternately, I can gate him in downstairs and try to stop the obsession. But we've tried this and it just starts up again the moment he's free.
What's my next move? Just wait it out?