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My little Bear has been crying a lot lately. He wakes me up every morning between 3 and 5 am by crying outside my bedroom door. He will calm down a little once I come out of the bedroom, but he won't completely settle until he eats breakfast. Sometimes he will go upstairs and cry in the hallway/outside the bedroom during the day. He won't stop until I go up there and bring him back downstairs. I need help with ideas as to what the problem is and how to make things better so he is not so upset.
Here are some details- I have two other cats, his actual mom and sister. He is two years old and has been with my husband and I since day one.
They are not allowed in the bedroom (have never been allowed in the bedroom) because of allergies. They all used to call/scratch at the bedroom door at first, but it has been more than a year since they got over that (we would play with them before bedtime to get them tired and did not respond at all to their noises at the door).
I do not have another room to close him in at night- the bathroom is too small to put all three cats with a littler box for an extended period of time... and I won't lock him away by himself at night (it would make his problems much worse). He has always been very emotionally needy to the point where he would wait at the front door when it got close to the time for my husband or I to come home for work.
This past winter my husband and I had to send the three of them to my Mother's for about a month. When we all finally came home Bear ended up with a stress induced urinary blockage... three hospital stays and two surgeries later he is more emotionally needy than every. He likes to know where we are and will call out to us if he looses track of where we are; once we respond and he knows where we are he will calm down.
And this brings me to what I suspect to be the root cause of the crying- I moved to a new apartment 2 months ago (new job, yay!). The cats came to the new apartment a little more than a month ago. My Husband will be moving here in 2 months. Bear misses my husband (at this point I cannot get a hold of anything that smells like my husband, but I have switched to his soap to see if that would help.. it didn't). I also have to travel for work (my husband has to travel even more, so the cats came to the new apartment with me sooner rather than later). When I travel I have a cat sitter care for them in the house (but they don't stay the night). Bear does not handle my travel well. All three times now he has stuck to me like glue once I come home, even when I am only away for one night. He won't go more than two feet away from me for the first day I am back.
I am slowly increasing the amount of food he gets at mealtimes (breakfast and dinner at 6 am and 6 pm) and I am thinking about giving him a snack at bedtime in case it is just hunger pains (but that doesn't explain him crying upstairs during the day).
I tried leaving some of my dirty clothes downstairs for him to sleep on... he didn't care.
I tired ignoring him when he cries...but eventually I have to get up to go to work.
I tried getting him to play more before bed, but bedtime is not the problem and he still wakes me up in the morning.
I have also tried to give him more attention during the day, but there are so many minutes in the day and I can't sit with him in my lap 24/7.
I cannot think of anything else. Does anyone have any recommendations? I don't want him to make himself sick again and the lack of sleep and stress for me is possibly contributing to a health issue that I am developing.
Here are some details- I have two other cats, his actual mom and sister. He is two years old and has been with my husband and I since day one.
They are not allowed in the bedroom (have never been allowed in the bedroom) because of allergies. They all used to call/scratch at the bedroom door at first, but it has been more than a year since they got over that (we would play with them before bedtime to get them tired and did not respond at all to their noises at the door).
I do not have another room to close him in at night- the bathroom is too small to put all three cats with a littler box for an extended period of time... and I won't lock him away by himself at night (it would make his problems much worse). He has always been very emotionally needy to the point where he would wait at the front door when it got close to the time for my husband or I to come home for work.
This past winter my husband and I had to send the three of them to my Mother's for about a month. When we all finally came home Bear ended up with a stress induced urinary blockage... three hospital stays and two surgeries later he is more emotionally needy than every. He likes to know where we are and will call out to us if he looses track of where we are; once we respond and he knows where we are he will calm down.
And this brings me to what I suspect to be the root cause of the crying- I moved to a new apartment 2 months ago (new job, yay!). The cats came to the new apartment a little more than a month ago. My Husband will be moving here in 2 months. Bear misses my husband (at this point I cannot get a hold of anything that smells like my husband, but I have switched to his soap to see if that would help.. it didn't). I also have to travel for work (my husband has to travel even more, so the cats came to the new apartment with me sooner rather than later). When I travel I have a cat sitter care for them in the house (but they don't stay the night). Bear does not handle my travel well. All three times now he has stuck to me like glue once I come home, even when I am only away for one night. He won't go more than two feet away from me for the first day I am back.
I am slowly increasing the amount of food he gets at mealtimes (breakfast and dinner at 6 am and 6 pm) and I am thinking about giving him a snack at bedtime in case it is just hunger pains (but that doesn't explain him crying upstairs during the day).
I tried leaving some of my dirty clothes downstairs for him to sleep on... he didn't care.
I tired ignoring him when he cries...but eventually I have to get up to go to work.
I tried getting him to play more before bed, but bedtime is not the problem and he still wakes me up in the morning.
I have also tried to give him more attention during the day, but there are so many minutes in the day and I can't sit with him in my lap 24/7.
I cannot think of anything else. Does anyone have any recommendations? I don't want him to make himself sick again and the lack of sleep and stress for me is possibly contributing to a health issue that I am developing.