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I have two cats - Eleanor and Theodore. Eleanor is now 4, and I got her first in 2019. She is a wonderful cat and I have never really had issues with her. I got Theodore about 8 months after Eleanor, as a kitten. He is now 2. Eleanor was NOT happy when Theo came home, hissing and growling at him through the door. I kept them separate for about a week and eventually started letting them be together when they seemed okay. They are generally fine together. They even snuggle pretty frequently. They do still fight sometimes, and it’s weird. Theo seems to target Eleanor and she will run from him and hide under the TV stand or a chair, growling and hissing at Theo. Theo never hisses or growls, just meows in a sort of weird way. He completely ignores her hissing and growling and just waits for her or will crawl under with her and then…attack? I don’t really know what it is. But she will continue hissing and growling and he will sometimes come out with some tufts of her fur in her mouth. I have never seen an actual injury from this. I typically break it up, either by spraying Theo with water (I know this is bad but I’m not sure what else to do) or just getting in between them. I try to redirect him to a fuzzy toy, and sometimes that works, and sometimes Theo will redirect himself to that toy.
Last week, I got them a new little cave style bed. They are both obsessed with it but only one will fit at a time. Theo has tried to go in it a few times while Eleanor has been in it, and she immediately gets out. Interestingly, while Theo initiates the fights, he also usually initiates the snuggles. Anyway, they have just been rotating using it while one sleeps right outside it. However, I have also noticed this week that their fights have been way more frequent than usual, and nothing else in the environment has really changed that I can think of. Could the bed be causing them to fight more? I think I’m going to put it away and see what happens.
it does worry me how much they’ve been fighting, but even before the bed when they fight it’s just weird and I don’t get it. They snuggle, they both sleep with me at night, Eleanor is not afraid of Theo - she will walk right up to me while he’s on my lap, or lay next to him on the bed or the couch, they share their automatic feeder and have never had issues with either of them getting enough to eat. I give them each wet food in separate bowls every day and there’s never any fighting about that.
It all just worries me. I used to have an aggressive dog and I have a little ptsd from that, but I worry that if I leave them for a long period (even just like a weekend trip, which I’m planning for Christmas to see family), one of them might end up really hurting the other and I won’t be there to prevent it. I have gone on trips before and it seems like they don’t fight while I’m gone (that I have seen from checking in on them with my cameras), but I still get nervous. I do still have someone come and check on them once a day if I’m gone, but they’re both timid and hide under the bed the whole time the person is here.
does anyone have any thoughts on this? I feel bad for Eleanor in particular, because I feel like Theo is bullying her.
photo of them snuggling attached from just a couple days ago.
Last week, I got them a new little cave style bed. They are both obsessed with it but only one will fit at a time. Theo has tried to go in it a few times while Eleanor has been in it, and she immediately gets out. Interestingly, while Theo initiates the fights, he also usually initiates the snuggles. Anyway, they have just been rotating using it while one sleeps right outside it. However, I have also noticed this week that their fights have been way more frequent than usual, and nothing else in the environment has really changed that I can think of. Could the bed be causing them to fight more? I think I’m going to put it away and see what happens.
it does worry me how much they’ve been fighting, but even before the bed when they fight it’s just weird and I don’t get it. They snuggle, they both sleep with me at night, Eleanor is not afraid of Theo - she will walk right up to me while he’s on my lap, or lay next to him on the bed or the couch, they share their automatic feeder and have never had issues with either of them getting enough to eat. I give them each wet food in separate bowls every day and there’s never any fighting about that.
It all just worries me. I used to have an aggressive dog and I have a little ptsd from that, but I worry that if I leave them for a long period (even just like a weekend trip, which I’m planning for Christmas to see family), one of them might end up really hurting the other and I won’t be there to prevent it. I have gone on trips before and it seems like they don’t fight while I’m gone (that I have seen from checking in on them with my cameras), but I still get nervous. I do still have someone come and check on them once a day if I’m gone, but they’re both timid and hide under the bed the whole time the person is here.
does anyone have any thoughts on this? I feel bad for Eleanor in particular, because I feel like Theo is bullying her.
photo of them snuggling attached from just a couple days ago.
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