Hi all! It's been a while since I've written here, but I'm hoping to seek some advice about some behavior-related issues with my youngest cat, Arwen. She's 9 months old and has an older brother, Pippin, who is just over a year old. I work a typical 9-5 and live alone in a studio, so the cats are left alone from 7a-3:30p. When I get home I feed them both and then afterwards I play with both of them a bit until they're panting and laying down from the exercise. As soon as they're good and tired is when I usually try to get some me-time in after work (I work in healthcare and it's a very draining job sometimes), but lately Arwen has been wanting to play all the time. I can't sit down for 5 minutes without her trying to bite cords, scale my bookshelves and knocking things off, or misbehaving in other ways to get my attention. She cries and cries and I feel like I'm not playing with her enough, but I can give both of them 2 or 3 10-15 minute play sessions after work and it still seems to not be enough for Arwen. Pippin seems fine, but Arwen is, for lack of a better term, balls to the walls and never gets tired!
It's caused me to feel grumpy lately because I do play with her and give her attention, but she's so restless and never quits misbehaving no matter how much I play with her or how much attention I give her. I have some cat cameras set up and I can see that while I'm gone, she and Pippin love to chase each other around my apartment in the morning so I know they play together while I'm gone, but while that seems to be enough to satisfy Pippin's energy requirements it doesn't satisfy Arwen's. There are times when I have zoom meetings and such and need her to not bother me and be quiet, but she behaves like a holy terror the minute I'm not paying attention to her. If I can somehow get her to take a nap, I count myself lucky lol.
She has plenty of toys, I spoil them both with feather toys and plushies and balls to bat around, and I have a few electronic toys too like a feather toy that rolls around on its own so she can chase it. I've seen a lot of advice saying to get toys that they can play with on their own, but Arwen only wants me to play with her and hardly ever will solo play by herself or play with Pippin.
Most of the advice I've seen for fixing a cat's troublesome behavior says to not reward them/give them attention when they're misbehaving, but when Arwen is scaling my bookshelves and knocking things down and breaking them, I can't exactly ignore her lest she cause more destruction. I'm just exasperated because I want my cats to have their play needs satisfied, but I also need some time to myself after work to rest and breathe! Any advice on other things I could try?
It's caused me to feel grumpy lately because I do play with her and give her attention, but she's so restless and never quits misbehaving no matter how much I play with her or how much attention I give her. I have some cat cameras set up and I can see that while I'm gone, she and Pippin love to chase each other around my apartment in the morning so I know they play together while I'm gone, but while that seems to be enough to satisfy Pippin's energy requirements it doesn't satisfy Arwen's. There are times when I have zoom meetings and such and need her to not bother me and be quiet, but she behaves like a holy terror the minute I'm not paying attention to her. If I can somehow get her to take a nap, I count myself lucky lol.
She has plenty of toys, I spoil them both with feather toys and plushies and balls to bat around, and I have a few electronic toys too like a feather toy that rolls around on its own so she can chase it. I've seen a lot of advice saying to get toys that they can play with on their own, but Arwen only wants me to play with her and hardly ever will solo play by herself or play with Pippin.
Most of the advice I've seen for fixing a cat's troublesome behavior says to not reward them/give them attention when they're misbehaving, but when Arwen is scaling my bookshelves and knocking things down and breaking them, I can't exactly ignore her lest she cause more destruction. I'm just exasperated because I want my cats to have their play needs satisfied, but I also need some time to myself after work to rest and breathe! Any advice on other things I could try?