I hope this is an ok place to put this as I couldn't figure out another spot, it was here or the Mother/ kitten forum and a lot of this is... well ranty and I just need some advice.
I'm very conflicted right now. We're trying to find homes for the kittens we took in. My husbands aunt knows a lady who adopts out kittens. They screen the prospective new owners and it seemed like a good idea since this lady has been doing this for a long time. Then she tells us that we have to give her all the kittens and mom then she will give us the mom back when the kittens have been adopted. First off we want to keep two of the kittens, so we say so and it's all or none.
Last night his aunt calls out of the blue and asks about the kittens. She tells us that we don't have the funds to take care of the cats we have much less more. All because she offered to neuter the boys for us via her charity clinic, and that turned into a nightmare. We've been taking care of these cats for over a month now, what right does she have to call us up and start making demands and basically insulting us.
Then she says fine we'll lie and tell her you only have four kittens to adopt out. Well it's not a lie we only have four kittens who need a home. You'd thinks they'd be happy that some of the kittens have a home. Then the truth comes out, they want all the kittens because they charge an adoption fee which goes to animal charities (the charity his aunt runs). They wanted us to pay them to let us adopt the cats we took in. How crazy is that?
Then she wants to know what colors well there's an orange tiger and the rest are black. Well she doesn't know if the lady will take black kittens because their to hard to place. Well it's not like I can change their coats.
I know the charity is low on funds right now, and other than some advice we never asked her to do anything. She assumed we needed help which would have been appreciated, but I was doing fine finding the funds I needed, without her. I'm so angry that she would insinuate that we don't take care of our pets. When in reality they are so pampered it's not funny.
I want the kittens to go to people who will love and care for them. I know this women is better equipped to find homes for the kittens, but after all this I don't want them any where near her. Am I out of line? Should I swallow my pride and let her do her thing? Or should I say no way, and find homes myself?
I'm totally out of my element here, I've never had to do something like this before. What would you do?
PS Sorry for the long ranting post but I'm really mad, and confused and sad. I mean part of me just wants to keep them, as I'm slightly attached and more than likely will cry when they go.
PSS I have to face his aunt Saturday at my MIL wedding and pretend to not want to rip her a new one.
I'm very conflicted right now. We're trying to find homes for the kittens we took in. My husbands aunt knows a lady who adopts out kittens. They screen the prospective new owners and it seemed like a good idea since this lady has been doing this for a long time. Then she tells us that we have to give her all the kittens and mom then she will give us the mom back when the kittens have been adopted. First off we want to keep two of the kittens, so we say so and it's all or none.
Last night his aunt calls out of the blue and asks about the kittens. She tells us that we don't have the funds to take care of the cats we have much less more. All because she offered to neuter the boys for us via her charity clinic, and that turned into a nightmare. We've been taking care of these cats for over a month now, what right does she have to call us up and start making demands and basically insulting us.
Then she says fine we'll lie and tell her you only have four kittens to adopt out. Well it's not a lie we only have four kittens who need a home. You'd thinks they'd be happy that some of the kittens have a home. Then the truth comes out, they want all the kittens because they charge an adoption fee which goes to animal charities (the charity his aunt runs). They wanted us to pay them to let us adopt the cats we took in. How crazy is that?
Then she wants to know what colors well there's an orange tiger and the rest are black. Well she doesn't know if the lady will take black kittens because their to hard to place. Well it's not like I can change their coats.
I know the charity is low on funds right now, and other than some advice we never asked her to do anything. She assumed we needed help which would have been appreciated, but I was doing fine finding the funds I needed, without her. I'm so angry that she would insinuate that we don't take care of our pets. When in reality they are so pampered it's not funny.
I want the kittens to go to people who will love and care for them. I know this women is better equipped to find homes for the kittens, but after all this I don't want them any where near her. Am I out of line? Should I swallow my pride and let her do her thing? Or should I say no way, and find homes myself?
I'm totally out of my element here, I've never had to do something like this before. What would you do?
PS Sorry for the long ranting post but I'm really mad, and confused and sad. I mean part of me just wants to keep them, as I'm slightly attached and more than likely will cry when they go.
PSS I have to face his aunt Saturday at my MIL wedding and pretend to not want to rip her a new one.