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Hi! My boyfriend and I got a new cat over Christmas from the local shelter. He is a 7 month old male cat. He was extremely shy at the beginning, but then he got used to us and he is a very cute little boy now!
We already had one cat, who is a 6 year old female, also a rescue that we got around 2 years ago. She was socialized from a young age, that's why she was never shy. We were told at the shelter that she had at least three litters as she was living as a stray cat, so she has had her share of taking care of babies.
We were very careful in introducing them. We only introduced the new cat to our existing cat once he got used to being around us. We took our time and followed Jackson Galaxy's method, we only let them see each other when they were eating etc. At first the female cat would growl and hiss and chase the boy, but then it kind of stopped. Now the female cat is always grooming the boy as he purrs away. They don't exactly cuddle but they will sleep next to each other, especially at night when we are all in bed.
The female cat sometimes chases the male cat, still. Especially if he is playing and running around, she will chase him and he will go and hide under the bed/couch and stay there for a bit. If she catches him she won't do anything though.
When the female cat is using the litterbox, the boy, very occasionally, hides and tries to scare her when she comes out. It's very obvious that he wants to play. She ignores him. On the other hand, the boy never chases the female cat. He also never grooms her. He sometimes rubs against her, headbumps her, but she doesn't do this to him. She only grooms him, and she can do this for hours.
So, my question is: are they playing or fighting? Is the female cat being dominant and aggressive? I don't think she hates him, because if she hated him she wouldn't groom him all the time. Any advice on how we can fix this?
We already had one cat, who is a 6 year old female, also a rescue that we got around 2 years ago. She was socialized from a young age, that's why she was never shy. We were told at the shelter that she had at least three litters as she was living as a stray cat, so she has had her share of taking care of babies.
We were very careful in introducing them. We only introduced the new cat to our existing cat once he got used to being around us. We took our time and followed Jackson Galaxy's method, we only let them see each other when they were eating etc. At first the female cat would growl and hiss and chase the boy, but then it kind of stopped. Now the female cat is always grooming the boy as he purrs away. They don't exactly cuddle but they will sleep next to each other, especially at night when we are all in bed.
The female cat sometimes chases the male cat, still. Especially if he is playing and running around, she will chase him and he will go and hide under the bed/couch and stay there for a bit. If she catches him she won't do anything though.
When the female cat is using the litterbox, the boy, very occasionally, hides and tries to scare her when she comes out. It's very obvious that he wants to play. She ignores him. On the other hand, the boy never chases the female cat. He also never grooms her. He sometimes rubs against her, headbumps her, but she doesn't do this to him. She only grooms him, and she can do this for hours.
So, my question is: are they playing or fighting? Is the female cat being dominant and aggressive? I don't think she hates him, because if she hated him she wouldn't groom him all the time. Any advice on how we can fix this?