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We sadly lost my Finn yesterday. He had a kidney blockage as it turned out and surgery was risky and wouldn’t have given him much more time at best and he was suffering. Just a few days before he seemed to be normal and happy and frisky. It hit us hard because it was unexpected; my partner and I have grieved cats before, usually it was more coming for awhile, still awfully sad but not as much a shock to the system. This time is harder. (He was the sweetest boy, lover and ladies man and bringer of toys as gifts and desperate for cuddles.) But for other other two cats it’ll be hard too. One of our cats is jusg a little younger than Finn (she’s 8) and born deaf — she’s super smart and acute vision and everything else. They had a weird relationship after we brought in our youngest Cake (only 3 now), but they both loved him in their own ways.
cake liked to wrestle Finn who generally hated it but tolerated it, then other times they would just hang together orexplore the garden together and hunt together. So Cake keeps looking for him, and so does Harmony, as a deaf cat she uses other cats as sentries. She and Cake get along (they play together — Finn was the “cop” who liked to break up their fights ) so the dynamic will be interesting. At some point we may get another cat for Cake to play with and for her to have another sentinel.
anyway! I know that just like for us it’ll be aprocess and be hard at first, but unlike with human kids you can’t explain things exactly. Any advice on how to get THEM through it is appreciated. Keep his scent around? “Talk” to them even tho they don’t understand? Cuddles, etc.
I’m calling the dynamic of us and the cats the “Mutual Grieving and Reassurance Society”
thanks for listening.
cake liked to wrestle Finn who generally hated it but tolerated it, then other times they would just hang together orexplore the garden together and hunt together. So Cake keeps looking for him, and so does Harmony, as a deaf cat she uses other cats as sentries. She and Cake get along (they play together — Finn was the “cop” who liked to break up their fights ) so the dynamic will be interesting. At some point we may get another cat for Cake to play with and for her to have another sentinel.
anyway! I know that just like for us it’ll be aprocess and be hard at first, but unlike with human kids you can’t explain things exactly. Any advice on how to get THEM through it is appreciated. Keep his scent around? “Talk” to them even tho they don’t understand? Cuddles, etc.
I’m calling the dynamic of us and the cats the “Mutual Grieving and Reassurance Society”
thanks for listening.
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