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Hi there! I'm new to this site, but really need some help. I've had my 12 year old cat, Charlie/Chuck, for about 4 years now (he's adopted) and he's truly a great cat. I just moved into a new apartment with my boyfriend and his female cat, Kitty (3-4 years old). She has lived with other cats before and is wonderful with them (most recently is was a kitten and she was almost like a momma to her). I was nervous about Charlie because I don't know his history with other cats and he was just dumped at the shelter. When we moved in they were introduced by scent then visual then physical. Charlie unfortunately did not do well with the physical introduction (lots of hissing and growling). I'm not worried much about physical fights as someone previously declawed him (makes me so angry), but of course I was worried about their stress levels and ours. After two days they were coexisting wonderfully. I was so happy. Unfortunately in the past couple days I noticed my boyfriend has actually been really down, almost depressed. In the mix of everything it seems that Charlie has established his safe space as out bedroom and Kitty is more comfortable in the living room. This is all well and good, but my boyfriend really likes to spend time with Kitty at the end of a long day while he is reading in bed or when he finally goes to sleep. She will come into the bedroom but will only stay for minutes at a time (almost like she's a little scared or worried when she's in there). She definitely is the less dominant cat unfortunately so I don't really know how to instill confidence in her so she feels she can relax with us in our room even when Charlie is there too.
Things I have tried so far:
-CBD oil for both cats and still using that
-Pheromones (plug in), but that leaked on the wall so no good
-Mutual playtime and feeding (both going very well)
-Closing off our bedroom during the day to try to make it seem like more "mutual" territory instead of just Charlie's
Overall this isn't a bad situation, both cats seem comfortable and are getting used to each other more every day. I just want my boyfriend to have the relationship with his cat that he craves and I want him to be happy. I've read most of the recent forums and articles on the site. ANY help would be highly appreciated as I am new to all this. Just want to do right by everyone so we can all live happily together
Thanks in advance,
Anna and family
Things I have tried so far:
-CBD oil for both cats and still using that
-Pheromones (plug in), but that leaked on the wall so no good
-Mutual playtime and feeding (both going very well)
-Closing off our bedroom during the day to try to make it seem like more "mutual" territory instead of just Charlie's
Overall this isn't a bad situation, both cats seem comfortable and are getting used to each other more every day. I just want my boyfriend to have the relationship with his cat that he craves and I want him to be happy. I've read most of the recent forums and articles on the site. ANY help would be highly appreciated as I am new to all this. Just want to do right by everyone so we can all live happily together
Thanks in advance,
Anna and family