Ok first I want to say I agree with most of what has been said. The cat has been behaving wrong and there for the owners are reacting in the only way they know how.
The cat has something going on that it does not like, either the new cat, or something else. we need to find out what that "something else" is. the second thing is the cat is action out of anger and being scared of the owners.
The cat does not eat so the boy-friend gets mad and pushes his head in the food bowel. ==== got the cat to eat but now is scared if he doesn't it will happen again.
this builds up the fear the cat has, causing him to bit and claw. claw your boyfriend and then he gets put/thrown (please tell me he did not physically throw him) out side. ==== negative behavior on both parts.
I am no expert with this but I think the problem may be with the cat and the boyfriend. it sounds like the boy friend is doing a lot of the physical hands on stuff with the cat causing him not to trust the boyfriend.
I would get the vet check up, change the food, move the food to the cats fav. place. and just leave the cat alone.
the cat will eat when he gets hungry enough, also he will come out when he is ready.
try to move and change the food. leave him alone. let him settle in and when he is ready to have contact with you he will.
The cat has something going on that it does not like, either the new cat, or something else. we need to find out what that "something else" is. the second thing is the cat is action out of anger and being scared of the owners.
The cat does not eat so the boy-friend gets mad and pushes his head in the food bowel. ==== got the cat to eat but now is scared if he doesn't it will happen again.
this builds up the fear the cat has, causing him to bit and claw. claw your boyfriend and then he gets put/thrown (please tell me he did not physically throw him) out side. ==== negative behavior on both parts.
I am no expert with this but I think the problem may be with the cat and the boyfriend. it sounds like the boy friend is doing a lot of the physical hands on stuff with the cat causing him not to trust the boyfriend.
I would get the vet check up, change the food, move the food to the cats fav. place. and just leave the cat alone.
the cat will eat when he gets hungry enough, also he will come out when he is ready.
try to move and change the food. leave him alone. let him settle in and when he is ready to have contact with you he will.