I'm considering rehoming my cat but I am feeling conflicted about it.
I've had my cat M for about a year and half now so I feel that is plenty of time for him to bond with my other cat and I to bond but we are just not at that point.
M doesn't seem like he likes H at all. When H tries to play or groom him, M hisses and fights with him. I have fostered two sets of kittens now and both H and M are great foster dads to them. But M seems to enjoy the kittens so much more than he enjoys my other permanent cat H. I'm not sure if it is a dominance thing or what. When I adopted M, they said that he was so loving and affectionate and that he loved other pets but that definitely doesn't seem to be the case with H. M is so patient and loving towards the kittens when they are here but he seems like he HATES H. I feel like I've given them plenty of time to adjust and that it just won't happen at this point.
What do you think would be causing his dislike of H? It makes me think that he just doesn't like H and he might be better off somewhere else where he can be with another pet that he will like. My parents' dog has stayed with me a few times and I did not see M the whole time she was here. He was absolutely terrified. H does great with dogs and all other pets. I am planning on getting a dog or two when I move out of my apartment and buy a home. I don't want him to be terrified but I live by myself so part of the reason I would like a dog is for safety.
I obviously planned on keeping him and caring for him for the rest of his life but I don't think he is happy here. On top of not getting along with my cat, I don't think he likes me either. He runs away from me all the time and when he does let me pet him, he gets grumpy so fast and will hiss at me and bite me. I understand that some cats just want to be loved on their own time but he just seems like he hates me. I'm fine with him not being a cuddly cat but I don't want a cat that I can't trust to not bite me when I pet him. He has some other behavioral issues that I have tried to work on but nothing has changed.
I've tried to be patient with him because I know he hasn't had the best situation. I just feel like my other cat and I are not a good family for him and he might be better off in another home. His foster mom before he came to me said he was really sweet and a big cuddler and everything. But he has never been like that here. He isn't an old cat so he has plenty of years left and I feel like he might enjoy them more elsewhere with someone who he works better with.
I know that he would go to a good home because I am required to return him to the organization I got him from if I decide to rehome and they go through an application process, interview process, and they call references. So I am not worried about him going to a bad home. I think I would just feel guilty rehoming him since he's already had a hard life and I would just be adding to that. But if I can make it better I would rather do that. I've been thinking of rehoming him for over a year but I wanted to give him plenty of time to adjust in case that was the issue. I don't want him to have to go through being rehomed again if it might not help.
Sorry for the long post but does anyone have a similar experience or some advice? Thanks!
I've had my cat M for about a year and half now so I feel that is plenty of time for him to bond with my other cat and I to bond but we are just not at that point.
M doesn't seem like he likes H at all. When H tries to play or groom him, M hisses and fights with him. I have fostered two sets of kittens now and both H and M are great foster dads to them. But M seems to enjoy the kittens so much more than he enjoys my other permanent cat H. I'm not sure if it is a dominance thing or what. When I adopted M, they said that he was so loving and affectionate and that he loved other pets but that definitely doesn't seem to be the case with H. M is so patient and loving towards the kittens when they are here but he seems like he HATES H. I feel like I've given them plenty of time to adjust and that it just won't happen at this point.
What do you think would be causing his dislike of H? It makes me think that he just doesn't like H and he might be better off somewhere else where he can be with another pet that he will like. My parents' dog has stayed with me a few times and I did not see M the whole time she was here. He was absolutely terrified. H does great with dogs and all other pets. I am planning on getting a dog or two when I move out of my apartment and buy a home. I don't want him to be terrified but I live by myself so part of the reason I would like a dog is for safety.
I obviously planned on keeping him and caring for him for the rest of his life but I don't think he is happy here. On top of not getting along with my cat, I don't think he likes me either. He runs away from me all the time and when he does let me pet him, he gets grumpy so fast and will hiss at me and bite me. I understand that some cats just want to be loved on their own time but he just seems like he hates me. I'm fine with him not being a cuddly cat but I don't want a cat that I can't trust to not bite me when I pet him. He has some other behavioral issues that I have tried to work on but nothing has changed.
I've tried to be patient with him because I know he hasn't had the best situation. I just feel like my other cat and I are not a good family for him and he might be better off in another home. His foster mom before he came to me said he was really sweet and a big cuddler and everything. But he has never been like that here. He isn't an old cat so he has plenty of years left and I feel like he might enjoy them more elsewhere with someone who he works better with.
I know that he would go to a good home because I am required to return him to the organization I got him from if I decide to rehome and they go through an application process, interview process, and they call references. So I am not worried about him going to a bad home. I think I would just feel guilty rehoming him since he's already had a hard life and I would just be adding to that. But if I can make it better I would rather do that. I've been thinking of rehoming him for over a year but I wanted to give him plenty of time to adjust in case that was the issue. I don't want him to have to go through being rehomed again if it might not help.
Sorry for the long post but does anyone have a similar experience or some advice? Thanks!
