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Yes I love those two very much, when it comes to Sammy I am always especially worried because he's like a soul cat for me, so his happiness and health are always a priority for me, my boyfriend feels the same way. He's the most loving and sweetest kitty we ever had. He's been always here for me to comfort me when I'm sad.I can see you're certainly an overthinker but I am ecstatic that all that overthinking,worrying and fuss is over Sammy & Milo!!!!!You are a pet parent,you're supposed to be concerned about EVERYTHING - so don't even give that a second thought,not here with the rest of your own kind,lol
Your 2 are doing wonderfully and don't forget that your Sammy is getting past those terrible twos ( lol) he's maturing and hes also adjusting to a new family dynamic- even if he's less cuddly at times does not mean he feels any differently towards you --- Pat yourself in the back,doing a fine job
I hope it's okay that I mention one thing ,please don't take offense because it is not meant to offend but to encourage....you talked earlier about "scolding" Sammy-theres much better ways to discourage undesirable behavior without scoldings,cats only associate scolding with your being angry or displeased AT them & don't understand WHY....So just for future,if ever- don't yell at Sammy,this can break trust and instill fear,it can very well be part of the reason Sammy backed off from being affectionate ( or not) but it's worth considering
We, humans often "react' ...... Just try to remember that kitties don't understand--- I've had people tell me "oh yes he does,when I yelled at him he knew exactly what he did and was ashamed,he hid".... So you see,they don't ", reason "as we do and there's better more positive ways to reinforce good behavior ....I hope you receive my words as they are intended,for good and for the best relationship you and your fur babies can have
But I'm also already deeply in love with Milo, he adapted a lot from Sammy too. He too is a really chatty and very cuddly boy and he purrs sooo loud when he's just near you. They make greater progress everyday, yesterday they laid both on me for the first time without Sammy being jealous or leaving.
While Sammy plays a lot less with me, I don't mind. I love seeing them chase each other through the whole apartment. He's finally getting all those cat interactions I only could imitate. As for being cuddly, it feels like its completely back to normal. He loves being carried like a baby again and all those bed cuddles. And every time I play PC games, he insists laying on the table in my arm.
And don't worry, no offense taken! We don't scream at him but we do say a firmly "Sammy, no, don't do that". Mostly we try to avoid having to tell him no by changing things like taping the bathroom bin up so he can no longer empty it or moving the the onion sack to a different spot where he can no longer get it out.
The only thing we can't change at the moment is him getting in the closet because its slight broken open in the back but once we move into the new apartment next spring/summer we will get a new closet so it's no longer possible. We also aren't really angry at his behavior, we endearingly call it doing crimes and that he's a little criminal.
We also try to redirect his behavior when its possible. He scratches a lot on our kitchen chairs so we got 3 scratching posts and 4 cat scratching trees but he's still doing it lol. We decided the next chairs will be wooden so he can no longer rip them to shreds
But what also really makes me glad is that he rarely does "crimes" anymore as he definitely isn't bored anymore when we aren't home or over the night. Getting Milo was the right decision and it's making all of us happy