Hey all,
It has been a while since I have been to a bridal shower; however, there was one in my family recently.
My cousin's daughter is having a bridal shower in May or June. She is not having a registry.
She is asking everyone invited to give monetary donations to a HoneyMoon Fund.
This is really getting to me. I have never heard of it.
She swears this is the 'Latest thing" in Wedding showers!!!! I am really fuming about the idea of asking for money.
Her point: She has been living with her fiancé for several years, they do not need anything, they have a small apartment, cannot store things.
My Points:
She is working at a good job. He is a FireFighter--good job; he gets overtime and possibly is learning a trade on his off days.. most FF do that.
They live in the second floor apartment of His Parents~~supposedly saving for a house.
They take several, away vacations per year. A yearly one is a trip to Aruba, as his parents have a time share there; another one is usually a visit to California or Florida, or elsewhere.
And:
If I am invited to a Wedding Shower, I do not want to be DICTATED to donate to a Fund.. or it be decreed that I am required to give a cash gift.
I feel this is downright tacky. I think I have heard about this once, but with negative connotations. After hearing this, I really do not want to attend this shower, nor give any gift.. to this or the wedding.
They are not creating a Wedding Registry, at all...
My questions: Have you heard of this? How common is this practice with the younger generation?? or with co-habitants. I am not against co-habitation, but if they do not want to get shower gifts; then, why have a shower???
My gut feeling, and reflex reaction, is to not go along with this. I am thinking of giving them a gift card to Crate and Barrel.. both for the shower and for the wedding. I do not care for giving checks as a wedding gift. You never know where or what the check will be spent for. If I give a gift, I would like it to be towards something for the household.
Your thoughts?
It has been a while since I have been to a bridal shower; however, there was one in my family recently.
My cousin's daughter is having a bridal shower in May or June. She is not having a registry.
She is asking everyone invited to give monetary donations to a HoneyMoon Fund.
This is really getting to me. I have never heard of it.
She swears this is the 'Latest thing" in Wedding showers!!!! I am really fuming about the idea of asking for money.
Her point: She has been living with her fiancé for several years, they do not need anything, they have a small apartment, cannot store things.
My Points:
She is working at a good job. He is a FireFighter--good job; he gets overtime and possibly is learning a trade on his off days.. most FF do that.
They live in the second floor apartment of His Parents~~supposedly saving for a house.
They take several, away vacations per year. A yearly one is a trip to Aruba, as his parents have a time share there; another one is usually a visit to California or Florida, or elsewhere.
And:
If I am invited to a Wedding Shower, I do not want to be DICTATED to donate to a Fund.. or it be decreed that I am required to give a cash gift.
I feel this is downright tacky. I think I have heard about this once, but with negative connotations. After hearing this, I really do not want to attend this shower, nor give any gift.. to this or the wedding.
They are not creating a Wedding Registry, at all...
My questions: Have you heard of this? How common is this practice with the younger generation?? or with co-habitants. I am not against co-habitation, but if they do not want to get shower gifts; then, why have a shower???
My gut feeling, and reflex reaction, is to not go along with this. I am thinking of giving them a gift card to Crate and Barrel.. both for the shower and for the wedding. I do not care for giving checks as a wedding gift. You never know where or what the check will be spent for. If I give a gift, I would like it to be towards something for the household.
Your thoughts?