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Hi All,
I've previously posted about my re-intro saga and just wanted some feedback for what's been happening. Since non pet parents think I'm nuts, I just wanted to reiterate how thankful I am for places like this.
Here goes:
I'm still site swapping. About a month ago, I started putting the girl (non aggressor) in the carrier for a few while I let the boy (aggressor) roam the rest of the house. Then I open the flap to the carrier, give them all treats and stay close. I'd do this for no more than 30 min. I started to notice how the boy would approach, they'd smell each other with no reaction and a few times I saw soft licks from both parties - a good sign right? I did this at least twice a day and noticed that in the evening after they ate and before swapping, the boy would come and lay in front of it and they'd both just sleep there for a bit. She intially wouldn't try and leave the carrier and I didn't push either way - just observed. Even more progress right?
After 2 weeks of this, I started to see my girl become more confident and actually stand up and try and walk out. The first few times that I caught a vibe from him like it wouldn't last, I wouldn't let her go to far without motioning for her to go back into the safety of the carrier. Then I noticed how the minute he didn't see her in the carrier, he'd stop whatever he was doing, go searching and then run up on her. I was pretty good at sensing and stopping things before they went left so there were no fights up until 2 weeks ago.
This particular morning, all were out and relaxed. It was like old times. She was on my bed sleeping and he was going on like he did before they fought - bird watching and playing with his toys. After a while, he climbs up the bed and lays down next to her. They eventually start playfully slap boxing -a soft paw here, a soft paw there. Then it got &$#* real. In breaking it up, he caught me in the vein on my hand and I ended up with a trip to urgent care. What fun and expensive times, I tell you.
My first and probably obvious question is, wtf? While being seperated (they can fully smell and see each other) they don't react negatively at all. They smell each other and paw at each other playfully. The boy is fixed. All are heathy. I'm following expert protocol with the site swapping. Why is he such a dick to her now? I have another cat who he fine with.
Second question, is there any other technique I could use that I haven't already tried....and believe me I've tried alot...(pheromone this, flower essence that, cbd, reiki).
thanks for reading...
I've previously posted about my re-intro saga and just wanted some feedback for what's been happening. Since non pet parents think I'm nuts, I just wanted to reiterate how thankful I am for places like this.
Here goes:
I'm still site swapping. About a month ago, I started putting the girl (non aggressor) in the carrier for a few while I let the boy (aggressor) roam the rest of the house. Then I open the flap to the carrier, give them all treats and stay close. I'd do this for no more than 30 min. I started to notice how the boy would approach, they'd smell each other with no reaction and a few times I saw soft licks from both parties - a good sign right? I did this at least twice a day and noticed that in the evening after they ate and before swapping, the boy would come and lay in front of it and they'd both just sleep there for a bit. She intially wouldn't try and leave the carrier and I didn't push either way - just observed. Even more progress right?
After 2 weeks of this, I started to see my girl become more confident and actually stand up and try and walk out. The first few times that I caught a vibe from him like it wouldn't last, I wouldn't let her go to far without motioning for her to go back into the safety of the carrier. Then I noticed how the minute he didn't see her in the carrier, he'd stop whatever he was doing, go searching and then run up on her. I was pretty good at sensing and stopping things before they went left so there were no fights up until 2 weeks ago.
This particular morning, all were out and relaxed. It was like old times. She was on my bed sleeping and he was going on like he did before they fought - bird watching and playing with his toys. After a while, he climbs up the bed and lays down next to her. They eventually start playfully slap boxing -a soft paw here, a soft paw there. Then it got &$#* real. In breaking it up, he caught me in the vein on my hand and I ended up with a trip to urgent care. What fun and expensive times, I tell you.
My first and probably obvious question is, wtf? While being seperated (they can fully smell and see each other) they don't react negatively at all. They smell each other and paw at each other playfully. The boy is fixed. All are heathy. I'm following expert protocol with the site swapping. Why is he such a dick to her now? I have another cat who he fine with.
Second question, is there any other technique I could use that I haven't already tried....and believe me I've tried alot...(pheromone this, flower essence that, cbd, reiki).
thanks for reading...
