Long story here, so thank you in advance to anyone who bothers to read it!
About 2 years ago my best friend and her husband asked me to lend them some money to buy a van to set up in business. I agreed, and lent them £6,000. I thought they'd pay me back in a month or two, but it turned out they started paying me back at £100 a month. I was miffed, but didn't need the money for anything else, so didn't mind too much.
A year ago, husband tried it on with me. I didn't say anything to my friend because I didn't want to ruin their marriage, and he apologised and said it would never happen again etc etc.
6 months ago, he found out that she was having an affair, and that I knew about it. He then told her that I had tried it on with him and that he'd turned me down, he banned me from the house and said if I ever showed my face he'd hit me. He called me all names under the sun, as you can imagine. Luckily, my friend believed me and not her husband. Since then, they have stayed together and have been slowly working things out, although husband has showed himself to be petty, spiteful, dishonest and downright nasty (he also had an affair in retaliation).
Problem is, I can't stop thinking about the fact that a man I now hate and don't trust owes me so much money. They aren't well off and husbands business isn't going well, and as guilty as I feel, I've asked to be repaid in full. They have missed the last three payments, and I feel like I'm being taken advantage of. It's not difficult to get a loan from a bank, and they have plenty of equity on their house that they could borrow against, not to mention they both have large families that I'm sure could help.
I've had a huge guilt trip this morning from my friend about they can't afford it and that her and her daughter will suffer because of me. I've pointed out that if her husband hadn't lied about me and threatened me, then I wouldn't have got to the point where I'm unhappy about the loan.
Am I being a complete cow? Please be honest, I'm feeling hugely guilty at the moment!
About 2 years ago my best friend and her husband asked me to lend them some money to buy a van to set up in business. I agreed, and lent them £6,000. I thought they'd pay me back in a month or two, but it turned out they started paying me back at £100 a month. I was miffed, but didn't need the money for anything else, so didn't mind too much.
A year ago, husband tried it on with me. I didn't say anything to my friend because I didn't want to ruin their marriage, and he apologised and said it would never happen again etc etc.
6 months ago, he found out that she was having an affair, and that I knew about it. He then told her that I had tried it on with him and that he'd turned me down, he banned me from the house and said if I ever showed my face he'd hit me. He called me all names under the sun, as you can imagine. Luckily, my friend believed me and not her husband. Since then, they have stayed together and have been slowly working things out, although husband has showed himself to be petty, spiteful, dishonest and downright nasty (he also had an affair in retaliation).
Problem is, I can't stop thinking about the fact that a man I now hate and don't trust owes me so much money. They aren't well off and husbands business isn't going well, and as guilty as I feel, I've asked to be repaid in full. They have missed the last three payments, and I feel like I'm being taken advantage of. It's not difficult to get a loan from a bank, and they have plenty of equity on their house that they could borrow against, not to mention they both have large families that I'm sure could help.
I've had a huge guilt trip this morning from my friend about they can't afford it and that her and her daughter will suffer because of me. I've pointed out that if her husband hadn't lied about me and threatened me, then I wouldn't have got to the point where I'm unhappy about the loan.
Am I being a complete cow? Please be honest, I'm feeling hugely guilty at the moment!