Yesterday my daughter (who lives a time zone away) telephoned to tell me that her 21 year old daughter became engaged in December to the fellow she's been living with. That my daughter had told her daughter to let people know but she didn't. Which is why my daughter called. And, said my daughter, that's O.K.
I asked if my daughter really thought this was O.K. and she said that the happy couple is very busy.
He's Turkish, 12 years older than my granddaughter, and they are getting married in Turkey in May, then returning to the United States.
If I was British I'd say I was gobsmacked.
I guess what I'm asking is if these days it is O.K. to not inform your grandparents you got engaged. I sort of recall that the parents of the bride did this. In which case why didn't my daughter let us know sooner.
Granddaughter is impolite in that she never sends a thank you for birthday / Christmas gifts. Only way we knew she received the generous check we sent for her 21st birthday was when it cleared our bank account. So I understand she's rude but not telling us about her engagement? And shouldn't our daughter have said something before this? I assure you that we have spoken between December and yesterday.
Or have things changed and this is now the accepted way of doing things?
I asked if my daughter really thought this was O.K. and she said that the happy couple is very busy.
He's Turkish, 12 years older than my granddaughter, and they are getting married in Turkey in May, then returning to the United States.
If I was British I'd say I was gobsmacked.
I guess what I'm asking is if these days it is O.K. to not inform your grandparents you got engaged. I sort of recall that the parents of the bride did this. In which case why didn't my daughter let us know sooner.
Granddaughter is impolite in that she never sends a thank you for birthday / Christmas gifts. Only way we knew she received the generous check we sent for her 21st birthday was when it cleared our bank account. So I understand she's rude but not telling us about her engagement? And shouldn't our daughter have said something before this? I assure you that we have spoken between December and yesterday.
Or have things changed and this is now the accepted way of doing things?