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So my roommate and I have 4 cats between us. We have been roommates for more then 12 years, so it's a stable household and we don't often have guests around.
Here's the family:
Morpheus (male, Bengal, neutered, around 8 years old)
Jynx (female, black domestic, spayed, around 5-6 years old)
Eva (female, Jellicle domestic, spayed, around 3 years old - rescue)
Mal (male, bluepoint Siamese, neutered, around 1 1/2 years old - I got another Siamese because my previous one passed away due to FIP and there was a year in between his passing and this cat)
We also have 3 Cockatiels (Mr. P, Ghost and Mystic) - but the cats leave them alone, but just included for the sake of completeness.
We don't smack our cats with newspaper or squirt them with water or abuse them. They do get told no or told to stop when doing something bad, my roommate uses her mommy voice and they listen...they all tend to ignore me when I tell them no or to stop...I apparently don't have the right kind of voice :/ -- mostly I have to clap my hands at Morpheus and tell him no to get him to stop clawing the carpet at the edge of the stairs, but that is pretty much the limit. Loud noises and the like scare the birds so discipline is done in moderation and handled with care.
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This is regarding Mal, the Siamese.
He was much more affectionate when he was younger but as he has gotten older he seems to be scared, jumpy/high strung and seems to only tolerate me anymore. I've never had a cat quite like him before.
He hides a lot, sleeping in dark quiet places. Currently he is sleeping in my closet, which is dark and has a nice hidey hole in it. From past experience, if I close that off he will simply find some place else to hide and I'd rather have him close so for now, I've left it alone.
He will lounge comfortably on my bathroom counter as well, waiting for me to turn the water on so he can drink from it (which I do and have a filter on it so no tap water).
But if I acknowledge him by look at him directly for more than a brief few moments or let him sniff my hand and then try to touch him -- he runs away. He almost always runs when I try to pet or touch him. Every once in a great while, if I am sitting he may walk past me and let me scratch his cheek for a few moments. He will eat treats from my hand. He also used to crawl in bed with me and mew and knead the blanket and mew while I petted him (he will still do this with my roommate sometimes), but not anymore it seems. He used to let me pet him as well.
I'm really sort of at a loss as to what to do or what's changed and how to fix it. Some suggestions and advice would be very welcome.
Here's the family:
Morpheus (male, Bengal, neutered, around 8 years old)
Jynx (female, black domestic, spayed, around 5-6 years old)
Eva (female, Jellicle domestic, spayed, around 3 years old - rescue)
Mal (male, bluepoint Siamese, neutered, around 1 1/2 years old - I got another Siamese because my previous one passed away due to FIP and there was a year in between his passing and this cat)
We also have 3 Cockatiels (Mr. P, Ghost and Mystic) - but the cats leave them alone, but just included for the sake of completeness.
We don't smack our cats with newspaper or squirt them with water or abuse them. They do get told no or told to stop when doing something bad, my roommate uses her mommy voice and they listen...they all tend to ignore me when I tell them no or to stop...I apparently don't have the right kind of voice :/ -- mostly I have to clap my hands at Morpheus and tell him no to get him to stop clawing the carpet at the edge of the stairs, but that is pretty much the limit. Loud noises and the like scare the birds so discipline is done in moderation and handled with care.
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This is regarding Mal, the Siamese.
He was much more affectionate when he was younger but as he has gotten older he seems to be scared, jumpy/high strung and seems to only tolerate me anymore. I've never had a cat quite like him before.
He hides a lot, sleeping in dark quiet places. Currently he is sleeping in my closet, which is dark and has a nice hidey hole in it. From past experience, if I close that off he will simply find some place else to hide and I'd rather have him close so for now, I've left it alone.
He will lounge comfortably on my bathroom counter as well, waiting for me to turn the water on so he can drink from it (which I do and have a filter on it so no tap water).
But if I acknowledge him by look at him directly for more than a brief few moments or let him sniff my hand and then try to touch him -- he runs away. He almost always runs when I try to pet or touch him. Every once in a great while, if I am sitting he may walk past me and let me scratch his cheek for a few moments. He will eat treats from my hand. He also used to crawl in bed with me and mew and knead the blanket and mew while I petted him (he will still do this with my roommate sometimes), but not anymore it seems. He used to let me pet him as well.
I'm really sort of at a loss as to what to do or what's changed and how to fix it. Some suggestions and advice would be very welcome.