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Hello! I posted on here a few weeks ago asking for advice and shocker of all shockers, I am on here again looking for advice. So some of you very lovely and kind people are aware that I very recently had a failed adoption. Took a cat home, cat was great for a week, cat decided to start attacking me randomly and pretty relentlessly, worked with shelter and vet to no avail, had to return the cat and ended up feeling like complete garbage. Side note, for those of you that are aware of the whole story, the cat wasn't even back a full 2 weeks at the shelter and she is up for adoption again and her description is literally the exact same, all that is added is that, "Like most cats, she is 99% sweet and 1% feisty." What!?!? I know you won't advertise upfront that she has some aggression, but it doesnt even seem like made any attempt to figure out what was triggering her.
Anyway, my question is, when looking to adopt a cat, do any of you ever feel guilty about NOT taking a cat home? Like, maybe it just doesn't seem like a right fit or whatever, but you just decide they're not the cat for you. A former co-worker is fostering cats, kind of getting a rescue going, and I met one of her cats and she seemed like a sweet girl, but she didn't really seem to have much of a personality so it didn't necessarily feel like a fit so I told the woman I would think about it but I just feel horrible about not taking a cat! I feel like no matter what I would love the cat because she's a living creature and I am an animal lover through and through, but it was hard to tell if this would be a good fit and I am concerned about their being potential health issues. My co-worker rescued the cat from a kill shelter and she came with a brother she bonded with, both came very sick I guess and the brother didn't make it. My mom was asking what happened and they said they took the cat to the vet and the vet said the cat was just experiencing stress from being in a new place and eating a new diet (diarrhea, vomiting, and not eating were the symptoms I guess), which is very possible. But that happened over a year ago and they said the cat is still stressed from losing her brother and that is why she is so shy. They had her in a crate and when asked if she could come out they said no because she would get lost because she hides. When I was petting her she just kind of sat there and didn't really respond. She didn't shy away from me but she didn't purr or lean into it like she enjoyed it. I am worried because if she is sick, I don't know if I can knowingly take on a cat that is sick right now (obviously if I got a cat and something happened I would care for them) and if she is just that....quiet, I don't know if that would be a good fit for me because I am used to having pretty friendly cats and I feel so horribly selfish but I really want a cat that is cuddly and likes to be near me. I just don't know, this is all done out of their home so I would think that she would be either a little more outgoing cause it is her territory or for that very same reason would have responded in a more stressed/anxious manner. I dont know, am I just a terrible human being?
Anyway, my question is, when looking to adopt a cat, do any of you ever feel guilty about NOT taking a cat home? Like, maybe it just doesn't seem like a right fit or whatever, but you just decide they're not the cat for you. A former co-worker is fostering cats, kind of getting a rescue going, and I met one of her cats and she seemed like a sweet girl, but she didn't really seem to have much of a personality so it didn't necessarily feel like a fit so I told the woman I would think about it but I just feel horrible about not taking a cat! I feel like no matter what I would love the cat because she's a living creature and I am an animal lover through and through, but it was hard to tell if this would be a good fit and I am concerned about their being potential health issues. My co-worker rescued the cat from a kill shelter and she came with a brother she bonded with, both came very sick I guess and the brother didn't make it. My mom was asking what happened and they said they took the cat to the vet and the vet said the cat was just experiencing stress from being in a new place and eating a new diet (diarrhea, vomiting, and not eating were the symptoms I guess), which is very possible. But that happened over a year ago and they said the cat is still stressed from losing her brother and that is why she is so shy. They had her in a crate and when asked if she could come out they said no because she would get lost because she hides. When I was petting her she just kind of sat there and didn't really respond. She didn't shy away from me but she didn't purr or lean into it like she enjoyed it. I am worried because if she is sick, I don't know if I can knowingly take on a cat that is sick right now (obviously if I got a cat and something happened I would care for them) and if she is just that....quiet, I don't know if that would be a good fit for me because I am used to having pretty friendly cats and I feel so horribly selfish but I really want a cat that is cuddly and likes to be near me. I just don't know, this is all done out of their home so I would think that she would be either a little more outgoing cause it is her territory or for that very same reason would have responded in a more stressed/anxious manner. I dont know, am I just a terrible human being?