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Hi everyone, so I adopted a cat from a foster 5 days ago (I know, it's only been a short time but I want to make sure I do everything right). She is a little over a year old and she had been with the foster for about 10 months prior. The first meeting with her, the foster brought her over to my house into what is now the safe room in a carrier. She had to pull her out of the carrier, but the cat was so comfortable with the foster- she held her in her arms most of the time and she was quiet and calm and happy. She set her down and she started backing into corners but would let my live-in boyfriend and I pet her, she even purred a bit. I knew she was a little shy but according to the foster "she is friendly, I swear. She lets me hold her, falls asleep in my arms, she loved this-and-this toy- she just needs to get to know you".
Well I adopted her, the foster left, and when kitty realized she wasn't coming back, she started hiding which obviously is normal. On the first day I pretty much left her alone besides filling her food, but my boyfriend who has no self control around cute cats (lol) picked her up and cuddled her- she was actually calm and let him hold her for about 30 seconds before she jumped away. I'm worried that this ruined her trust for us. We haven't tried this since.
The first couple of days, she would only eat and use the litter box when I wasn't in the room. I left her alone again mostly. The safe room is my work-from-home office, so I sat in there working quietly all day and she eventually started eating, using the litter box, and eating treats with me in the room as long as I didn't look at her. If I look at her she'd run and hide in the basket I gave her or under a blanket. She'd hiss if I got too close. Another day later, she will eat treats near me and everything, even if I look at her sometimes. No hissing for 2 whole days. Progress! Last night and this morning, I got down on the floor and slowly extended my arm hoping to let her sniff but both times she hissed when I got a foot or two close to her.
I set up a camera in my office and I know she comfortably roams around the room at night / when I'm not in the room for an extended amount of time. She continues to eat, drink, use the litter box regularly. Her favorite place to perch is on the window sill but will hide as soon as I enter the room. I have the Feliway diffuser and I have a cat tree coming in next week. She has zero interest in cat nip or toys. Is there anything else I can do/is there anything I'm doing wrong? Do you think she was feral/semi feral before the foster had her? Thank you in advance for reading my long post.
Well I adopted her, the foster left, and when kitty realized she wasn't coming back, she started hiding which obviously is normal. On the first day I pretty much left her alone besides filling her food, but my boyfriend who has no self control around cute cats (lol) picked her up and cuddled her- she was actually calm and let him hold her for about 30 seconds before she jumped away. I'm worried that this ruined her trust for us. We haven't tried this since.
The first couple of days, she would only eat and use the litter box when I wasn't in the room. I left her alone again mostly. The safe room is my work-from-home office, so I sat in there working quietly all day and she eventually started eating, using the litter box, and eating treats with me in the room as long as I didn't look at her. If I look at her she'd run and hide in the basket I gave her or under a blanket. She'd hiss if I got too close. Another day later, she will eat treats near me and everything, even if I look at her sometimes. No hissing for 2 whole days. Progress! Last night and this morning, I got down on the floor and slowly extended my arm hoping to let her sniff but both times she hissed when I got a foot or two close to her.
I set up a camera in my office and I know she comfortably roams around the room at night / when I'm not in the room for an extended amount of time. She continues to eat, drink, use the litter box regularly. Her favorite place to perch is on the window sill but will hide as soon as I enter the room. I have the Feliway diffuser and I have a cat tree coming in next week. She has zero interest in cat nip or toys. Is there anything else I can do/is there anything I'm doing wrong? Do you think she was feral/semi feral before the foster had her? Thank you in advance for reading my long post.