For those that hadn't read my other thread many moons ago, a quick summary of my situation.
Was living in NY with my mom, her cats and my cats. Moved to FL to take a job and buy a house. Apartment had a two pet limit so, not wanting to seperate my three boys (they were VERY attached to each other), I asked my mom to catsit them for me until I closed on the house. I never planned to get rid of them, EVER. As far as I was concerned this was just a temporary "visit" with mom until the house closed. She agreed. House got stuck in probate, took longer than we all thought. House is now closing on Friday. During this time, one of her cats died (cancer at 12years) and one of mine died (heart failure from being born with aortic stenosis at 7 years). The ones still in her house are 2 of hers and 2 of mine. She then asked me to take her male as well because he had bonded with my two boys so much that she didn't want to split them up. Her other cat is female and much prefers to be by herself anyway.
That request was a few months ago and as far as I knew I was taking my two boys and her one boy and all was well.
So tonight I called up my mom to finalize things with the house and try to set up a date when I could get my boys. Instead of agreeing to it, she informed me that she doesn't want to give them to me because she spoke to a friend of hers who works for a no-kill shelter and the woman told my mom that bringing them down here and putting them in a new house would be traumatic to them.
I have been looking forward to getting my boys back from the first second I left. I feel like someone just ripped my heart out! My boyfriend keeps telling me that if I let my mom keep them they'll get good care and a loving home and we can go adopt other kitties who need homes... which is true... and I know he's trying to help... but these are my boys! Heck, I bottle fed one of them! And it's not like they haven't moved before. When I had moved to Albany to go to school they had moved with me to my apartment and then back to long island when I came home. They adjusted just fine... I'm just not understanding how getting them back from her would be so traumatic to them this time.
So please, any advice is helpful. Should I leave them with her and go adopt other cats who need homes? Should I fight for them? Her telling me this came as such a shock that I didn't even know how to react when she said it and now I don't know what to think.
Was living in NY with my mom, her cats and my cats. Moved to FL to take a job and buy a house. Apartment had a two pet limit so, not wanting to seperate my three boys (they were VERY attached to each other), I asked my mom to catsit them for me until I closed on the house. I never planned to get rid of them, EVER. As far as I was concerned this was just a temporary "visit" with mom until the house closed. She agreed. House got stuck in probate, took longer than we all thought. House is now closing on Friday. During this time, one of her cats died (cancer at 12years) and one of mine died (heart failure from being born with aortic stenosis at 7 years). The ones still in her house are 2 of hers and 2 of mine. She then asked me to take her male as well because he had bonded with my two boys so much that she didn't want to split them up. Her other cat is female and much prefers to be by herself anyway.
That request was a few months ago and as far as I knew I was taking my two boys and her one boy and all was well.
So tonight I called up my mom to finalize things with the house and try to set up a date when I could get my boys. Instead of agreeing to it, she informed me that she doesn't want to give them to me because she spoke to a friend of hers who works for a no-kill shelter and the woman told my mom that bringing them down here and putting them in a new house would be traumatic to them.
I have been looking forward to getting my boys back from the first second I left. I feel like someone just ripped my heart out! My boyfriend keeps telling me that if I let my mom keep them they'll get good care and a loving home and we can go adopt other kitties who need homes... which is true... and I know he's trying to help... but these are my boys! Heck, I bottle fed one of them! And it's not like they haven't moved before. When I had moved to Albany to go to school they had moved with me to my apartment and then back to long island when I came home. They adjusted just fine... I'm just not understanding how getting them back from her would be so traumatic to them this time.
So please, any advice is helpful. Should I leave them with her and go adopt other cats who need homes? Should I fight for them? Her telling me this came as such a shock that I didn't even know how to react when she said it and now I don't know what to think.