Hello! Not sure how to start this, but I have a almost 3 year old cat named Iris. She loves people, seems to hate other cats. We got her when she was really tiny, and we got her by herself without a litter mate. We think this is where issues started, because she grew up a totally solitary cat. Moving on,
Me and my boyfriend adopted a kitten around a year ago and I tried to slowly introduce them to each other. (Which realistically now that I look back, might not have been as "slow" as I thought.) The new cat Oliver is a super sweet, loving clumsy little thing. Iris of course, did not approve. Normally super sweet towards me, she grew temperamental and at the time I had anxiety issues. BAD. So lets just say I couldn't mentally handle the situation and two weeks passed before little Oliver went to my dad's house, which luckily he had a kitten about the same age and they got along very well. Well, the cat my dad originally had just passed, leaving Oliver all alone. I am stuck with the situation of do I try to re-introduce them again? Iris had her run of the house except the bathroom where Oliver was. (At the time in a super small apartment that's all he had) Now that we've moved he would have an entire bedroom which should be better for him and mentally for me, as I hated locking him up in a small bathroom.
I got anxiety medicine, which has helped me a TON to where I think I will be a million times better about the situation. I was so bad before that if Iris didn't sleep on her usual spot on my pillow with me at night because she was upset about the new kitty, I would cry myself to sleep. Iris is extremely attached to me, she follows me everywhere I go and cries as soon as I leave the house, even if it's for a minute. That's why I thought getting Oliver in the first place would be good for her, so he would be sort of a "distraction" when I was gone so she wouldn't be so anxious and that one they she would learn to like another cat. I am sort of stuck on what to do. I know without a doubt I can handle the situation better than before. Oliver is still a sweet, easy going boy and he had no issues with Iris, and always tried to play with her before but she would always hiss at him. She at one time when I tried to really introduce them to one another, looked like she was sort of playing with him, but was really stalking and trying to attack him. And I know truthfully that yes, it does take time for a solitary cat to get used to anther one. I am just wondering how long, because what if a year or two goes by and it doesn't get any better? Has anyone else had sort of a similar situation happen? I think more than anything, I am just trying to see possibly how long it may take for Iris to settle down and accept that he is here to stay, I just think too that there really might not be a answer to that question.
Me and my boyfriend adopted a kitten around a year ago and I tried to slowly introduce them to each other. (Which realistically now that I look back, might not have been as "slow" as I thought.) The new cat Oliver is a super sweet, loving clumsy little thing. Iris of course, did not approve. Normally super sweet towards me, she grew temperamental and at the time I had anxiety issues. BAD. So lets just say I couldn't mentally handle the situation and two weeks passed before little Oliver went to my dad's house, which luckily he had a kitten about the same age and they got along very well. Well, the cat my dad originally had just passed, leaving Oliver all alone. I am stuck with the situation of do I try to re-introduce them again? Iris had her run of the house except the bathroom where Oliver was. (At the time in a super small apartment that's all he had) Now that we've moved he would have an entire bedroom which should be better for him and mentally for me, as I hated locking him up in a small bathroom.
I got anxiety medicine, which has helped me a TON to where I think I will be a million times better about the situation. I was so bad before that if Iris didn't sleep on her usual spot on my pillow with me at night because she was upset about the new kitty, I would cry myself to sleep. Iris is extremely attached to me, she follows me everywhere I go and cries as soon as I leave the house, even if it's for a minute. That's why I thought getting Oliver in the first place would be good for her, so he would be sort of a "distraction" when I was gone so she wouldn't be so anxious and that one they she would learn to like another cat. I am sort of stuck on what to do. I know without a doubt I can handle the situation better than before. Oliver is still a sweet, easy going boy and he had no issues with Iris, and always tried to play with her before but she would always hiss at him. She at one time when I tried to really introduce them to one another, looked like she was sort of playing with him, but was really stalking and trying to attack him. And I know truthfully that yes, it does take time for a solitary cat to get used to anther one. I am just wondering how long, because what if a year or two goes by and it doesn't get any better? Has anyone else had sort of a similar situation happen? I think more than anything, I am just trying to see possibly how long it may take for Iris to settle down and accept that he is here to stay, I just think too that there really might not be a answer to that question.