lost a baby, fetus, child... whether it may be tubal, abortion, or misscarriage or stillbirth?
Have you changed since the event?
I was pretty hurt last night by my collegues/friends who I thought would understand because they are 30+ and they are in a fase that they all want children.
We were all at a going away party, I was very happy preparing the foods for my friend so she could socialise. I did this volountarely and she really appreciated it.
Towards the end of the night other friends told me that i was boring because i wasnt dancing, and that they think I have changed because Trav is here with me.
They havent realised that since my loss and they knew about it that I dont feel like partying wildly, i dont feel like getting trashed just to dance to some music that i dont even really enjoy.
Most of them tried to put the blame on my shoes because they were new and i wouldnt take them off.
I am just upset at the things they have said to me, such as "oh youre so young its good that you lost it" " you dont need children yet you can party as much as you like!" (personally i dont think 21 is too young)
I dont know whether this is a hormonal phase, or if its just that i need more time to heal mentally I mean it has been 6 months. Or just maybe they have some of their own problems that result in being nasty, even though they may not mean it.
I would just like to hear your experiences, if you dont feel confortable expressing it freely just PM me.
p.s sorry if it doesnt make sense. I havent given all the details because everything is just running through my head and i have a headache
Have you changed since the event?
I was pretty hurt last night by my collegues/friends who I thought would understand because they are 30+ and they are in a fase that they all want children.
We were all at a going away party, I was very happy preparing the foods for my friend so she could socialise. I did this volountarely and she really appreciated it.
Towards the end of the night other friends told me that i was boring because i wasnt dancing, and that they think I have changed because Trav is here with me.
They havent realised that since my loss and they knew about it that I dont feel like partying wildly, i dont feel like getting trashed just to dance to some music that i dont even really enjoy.
Most of them tried to put the blame on my shoes because they were new and i wouldnt take them off.
I am just upset at the things they have said to me, such as "oh youre so young its good that you lost it" " you dont need children yet you can party as much as you like!" (personally i dont think 21 is too young)
I dont know whether this is a hormonal phase, or if its just that i need more time to heal mentally I mean it has been 6 months. Or just maybe they have some of their own problems that result in being nasty, even though they may not mean it.
I would just like to hear your experiences, if you dont feel confortable expressing it freely just PM me.
p.s sorry if it doesnt make sense. I havent given all the details because everything is just running through my head and i have a headache