Okay..I've got my protective gear on,my life insurance is up to date,emergency services on standby and my fragile ego is in a safety deposit box...here we go.
I read many posts here detailing the woes of your relationships with your menfolks. Frankly I think it's a little one-sided here. Geez Louise ladies...you all seem to be married/living with/dating the same insensitive,knuckle dragging,cat hating cave man. WAAAAAAAHHH!!!!
Now understand here...I'm not trying to make light of the real problems any of you are having. I don't know each individual's circumstances or background so don't think I'm aiming at anyone in particular.
Firstly,I see so often a young lady take up with a very obvious loser;the boozing,womanizing,greasy punk type. They all get starry-eyed over these morons and have big plans to CHANGE him. DOES NOT HAPPEN,EVER!!!!! A punk will be a punk until the day he dies. So if this is your problem..grow up. Get the heck out of there and don't look back.
That being said,there are a lot of nice guys out here; but we have problems too. Guys are taught from birth that we are supposed to be the caretaker,the strong one who shoulders all the burden...father,husband,brother,protector and the magician who has the answer to all problems. We are supposed to be a crying towel but never shed a tear ourselves. You females all wail that you want sensitive guys..ha!!! Let a man show his pain and the whispers start..What a wuss,He must be gay....
"My man doesn't like my cats","my man resents my computer"....well maybe,just maybe he has cause to feel that you care more about them than you do about him?? We need a sympathetic ear sometimes too. Sometimes after facing a world all day where he is a meaningless cipher he just needs that hug and a feeling that he is more to you than a damn wallet. It takes two to make a relationship and they both have to be grown-ups. Sex only means "I'm horny at this particular moment". Love is much more than that. Love can exist without sex and last for years. Sex is just better when love is there too.
So get off your crying towel and have a serious talk with your partner about what you BOTH want from a marriage/relationship. If you can BOTH fit your dreams together..fine. If not..part company and move on. And if either or both of you can't get past the "I WANT" stage get out and do not enter another relationship until you have become an emotional adult.
There...now swing away folks!!!!!
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I read many posts here detailing the woes of your relationships with your menfolks. Frankly I think it's a little one-sided here. Geez Louise ladies...you all seem to be married/living with/dating the same insensitive,knuckle dragging,cat hating cave man. WAAAAAAAHHH!!!!
Now understand here...I'm not trying to make light of the real problems any of you are having. I don't know each individual's circumstances or background so don't think I'm aiming at anyone in particular.
Firstly,I see so often a young lady take up with a very obvious loser;the boozing,womanizing,greasy punk type. They all get starry-eyed over these morons and have big plans to CHANGE him. DOES NOT HAPPEN,EVER!!!!! A punk will be a punk until the day he dies. So if this is your problem..grow up. Get the heck out of there and don't look back.
That being said,there are a lot of nice guys out here; but we have problems too. Guys are taught from birth that we are supposed to be the caretaker,the strong one who shoulders all the burden...father,husband,brother,protector and the magician who has the answer to all problems. We are supposed to be a crying towel but never shed a tear ourselves. You females all wail that you want sensitive guys..ha!!! Let a man show his pain and the whispers start..What a wuss,He must be gay....
"My man doesn't like my cats","my man resents my computer"....well maybe,just maybe he has cause to feel that you care more about them than you do about him?? We need a sympathetic ear sometimes too. Sometimes after facing a world all day where he is a meaningless cipher he just needs that hug and a feeling that he is more to you than a damn wallet. It takes two to make a relationship and they both have to be grown-ups. Sex only means "I'm horny at this particular moment". Love is much more than that. Love can exist without sex and last for years. Sex is just better when love is there too.
So get off your crying towel and have a serious talk with your partner about what you BOTH want from a marriage/relationship. If you can BOTH fit your dreams together..fine. If not..part company and move on. And if either or both of you can't get past the "I WANT" stage get out and do not enter another relationship until you have become an emotional adult.
There...now swing away folks!!!!!