So, yes....Ashie has been gone almost 8 months and I still am finding it very difficult to "move on", so to speak. It doesn't mean that I cry 24 hours a day..it isn't like that, but all I have to really do is utter her name and I can start bawling. THAT EASILY.
We adopted two cats shortly after Ashie was gone.....for various reasons. I guess because I thought I really needed that cat-affection and I am quick to rescue from shelters (but Ashie was an "only" cat by HER standards).
While I take care of these two cats..and pet them.....etc.....my attachment was very limited to the point to where I probably wouldn't be all terribly distraught if I lost them. Don't get me wrong, that isn't what I am going to do, but if something happened, I don't think the pain would even begin to compare to Ashie. They were just being kept at an arm's length and maybe a lot of it is because they have each other and they do play quite a bit...and the one (Lucy) is very independent.
But now, Tom-Tom has become very much about ME. He wants to be by me....lay on me....gets on my back at night (the way ASHIE did)..."talks" to me....just has been pretty affectionate lately...and I Don't know what to do with that. I don't push him down....it is very bitter-sweet...but he does stuff ASHIE did....and I don't want to ever replace that...I am scared of replacing it...so I just am at a loss here.
I KNOW he needs love just like Ashie did...I KNOW that...but how can something feel really good, but soooooo painful at the same time?? I don't know what to do with this.
Please help!
We adopted two cats shortly after Ashie was gone.....for various reasons. I guess because I thought I really needed that cat-affection and I am quick to rescue from shelters (but Ashie was an "only" cat by HER standards).
While I take care of these two cats..and pet them.....etc.....my attachment was very limited to the point to where I probably wouldn't be all terribly distraught if I lost them. Don't get me wrong, that isn't what I am going to do, but if something happened, I don't think the pain would even begin to compare to Ashie. They were just being kept at an arm's length and maybe a lot of it is because they have each other and they do play quite a bit...and the one (Lucy) is very independent.
But now, Tom-Tom has become very much about ME. He wants to be by me....lay on me....gets on my back at night (the way ASHIE did)..."talks" to me....just has been pretty affectionate lately...and I Don't know what to do with that. I don't push him down....it is very bitter-sweet...but he does stuff ASHIE did....and I don't want to ever replace that...I am scared of replacing it...so I just am at a loss here.
I KNOW he needs love just like Ashie did...I KNOW that...but how can something feel really good, but soooooo painful at the same time?? I don't know what to do with this.
Please help!