I have a soon 7 month old female cat and two older cats who are 9 and 10. The kitten gets along very well with the older one and ok with the slightly younger one. They can sleep next to each other and we have witnessed some exchanged licks. They are very playful with each other, but the older cat sometime hisses and the kitten acts pretty submissively, but not scared in my opinion: She makes her usual chirp-like noice and backs away very slightly, usually behind a cat tree etc. where she continues stalking the others looking to play, and eventually goes back to try pawing at them again.
She was spayed about a month ago and she healed very well, the incision is barely noticeable and she never really was bothered by it. However, after the surgery she has started peeing in my mother's bed.
She has never peed outside of her litter box apart from these accidents, and it's always the same corner of my mother's bed.
What we have tried:
Other conditions worth mentioning:
My mom is really stressed. She wants to completely deny the cat from going to her bed, but that's difficult because she sleeps in the living room. We could swich rooms so she could have a door? I am a legal adult and I kind of feel pressure to just take my cats and move out, but at the same time I'm not sure my mental state is good for that.
Obviously the biggest option left is taking her to the vet, but we don't have a car so it will be January 2021 before we can take her. Our financial situation isn't the best and my mom already owes me money for the spay, which we were supposed to pay 50/50, so that isn't the ideal situation, but of course I'll take her if that's necessary.
I'm just kind of at a loss right now. I love her a lot, and I don't want to be this stresses out all the time.
She was spayed about a month ago and she healed very well, the incision is barely noticeable and she never really was bothered by it. However, after the surgery she has started peeing in my mother's bed.
She has never peed outside of her litter box apart from these accidents, and it's always the same corner of my mother's bed.
What we have tried:
- We added another litter box, we now have 4. She is the only one that uses all of them, the other two only like their two old boxes in the bathroom, while our kittens favourite and the new one are in our hallway.
- Cleaning the boxes more often. Our old cats weren't that picky, so we cleaned about once a week. We tried cleaning daily or whenever needed, and at first we thought it helped - until she peed on the bed twice today, with 2 completely clean litter boxes available to her, plus two boxes that are pretty clean, were cleaned two days ago, and that she used today with no problems.
Other conditions worth mentioning:
- This has happened 5 or 6 times, and it's clearly getting more rapid. First there was a week inbetween, then maybe 1.5 weeks, then a couple days and now twice in the same day.
- She likes me more than my mother. She sleeps with me in my bed and on my lap when I'm on my computer, while she never sleeps with her. Of course they interact and she does like my mom, but clearly she is more comfortable with me, so if she was feeling unsafe, wouldn't she pee in my room or my bed?
- Nothing about our living situation has changed, apart from my mother starting a full time job. She has worked 3 days a week for months now, but started 5 days a week about a month ago. However, I'm currently studying from home, and she never pees when my mom is away, only when she is at home.
- I don't think it's stress. She is a very curious and playful cat, and I have never seen her act scared around our other cats. The hissing has almost completely stopped, so I don't see why she would be more stressed now.
- Since the start she has clearly associated my mothers bed with playing. She always brings her toys there, pretty much to the same spot where she pees. Sometimes she sleeps in that spot, but more rarely now. It's really difficult to tell what she's doing because she always digs around in the bed, playing with her mouses, and then one time just pees there like it's nothing.
My mom is really stressed. She wants to completely deny the cat from going to her bed, but that's difficult because she sleeps in the living room. We could swich rooms so she could have a door? I am a legal adult and I kind of feel pressure to just take my cats and move out, but at the same time I'm not sure my mental state is good for that.
Obviously the biggest option left is taking her to the vet, but we don't have a car so it will be January 2021 before we can take her. Our financial situation isn't the best and my mom already owes me money for the spay, which we were supposed to pay 50/50, so that isn't the ideal situation, but of course I'll take her if that's necessary.
I'm just kind of at a loss right now. I love her a lot, and I don't want to be this stresses out all the time.
